(Closed) Save the Dates…. to late?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it.  Despite what most of wedding blog land may show you, save the dates aren’t required, and for many people aren’t customary. 

As long as you have your invites out in a good time frame I wouldn’t worry about it at all 🙂

Post # 5
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Its not something thats needed. Its not even something that people expect. I wouldnt do it. Dont stress. Easier said than done I know.

Post # 6
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

Save your time and money.  I think that unless there is a lot of travel involved or the wedding is still months or years away it is a waste.  Better for the environment too.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Save the dates aren’t at all necessary! That being said, we did all of ours for about $25, so if you’re still determined it can be done cheaply. We got postcards from VistaPrint for free and paid a few dollars for shipping, and then had to buy the postcard stamps.

Post # 8
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No. You do not HAVE to send STD’s. They are a relatively new thing and most guests don’t expect them. I definitely would not send them to anyone who is not invited to the wedding. They are only for people who will be getting an invitation. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It’s definitely not too late, and then again, you don’t HAVE to send them out.  I did mine as postcards from Vistaprint too, and they look very nice.

Post # 10
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you weren’t planning on doing them, I wouldn’t worry. I didn’t do them and nobody knows or cares.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t worry about. I only did them for my Out of Town guests because I’m getting married in the middle of the summer.

They aren’t mandatory no matter what anyone tells you.

Post # 12
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You do not have to send Save the Dates. You can also send Save the Date emails or cheap postcards made on Moo.com, whatever. But – if you do send a Save the Date to someone – you HAVE to invite them. It is VERY rude to send a Save the Date, but not an invitation. It’s completely against etiquette, so it’s good that you aren’t planning on doing that. But yeah, you are not supposed to do that.

Post # 13
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No, it’s not too late but also NO, you do not need them…UNLESS you have some Out of Town guests that will need to arrange travel and hotel accomodations, in this case I would send only the Out of Town guests a save the date.  Vistaprint postcards may be the way to go if you’re on a tight budget. 

Post # 14
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4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m on a similar time-line. I’m trusting that relatives/out of towners have heard from word of mouth or our wedding website or our parents sending announcement emails. We’ll send invites 8 weeks prior, and that still should be plenty of time for people to plan.

I figure if they’re close enough to us that I *care* whether or not they come, then they’ll have heard about and saved the date already!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have no plans on making save the date cards. I’m on a tight budget too.

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