Post # 1
Okay, I’m cutting a lot of corners because of budget, what bride isn’t?
I wasn’t planning on sending Save the Dates…I’m getting married on Oct. 29, and I was just going to send out invites no later than August. Is this bad etiquette? Do I really need to send Save the Dates? I don’t have any made up, and I should really be sending them this month… is it too late for that? I feel like I should just stick with my choice, but part of me feels a little bad for those I’m inviting.
I also don’t want to send STDates to folks who aren’t invited… it feels cheap, and like saying “oh, send me presents, but dont’ come see me!”
What would you do?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t worry about it. Despite what most of wedding blog land may show you, save the dates aren’t required, and for many people aren’t customary.
As long as you have your invites out in a good time frame I wouldn’t worry about it at all 🙂
Post # 4
@thewheelsonthebus: Thank you… I’ll admit, I’m super excited one minute, and the next I’m biting-my-nails-nervous about something I may be doing “incorrectly”.
On a side note, I TOTALLY used the wrong spelling of “to” in the board post. It should be “too”. UGH, I hate when I do that.
Post # 5
Its not something thats needed. Its not even something that people expect. I wouldnt do it. Dont stress. Easier said than done I know.
Post # 6
Save your time and money. I think that unless there is a lot of travel involved or the wedding is still months or years away it is a waste. Better for the environment too.
Post # 7
Save the dates aren’t at all necessary! That being said, we did all of ours for about $25, so if you’re still determined it can be done cheaply. We got postcards from VistaPrint for free and paid a few dollars for shipping, and then had to buy the postcard stamps.
Post # 8
No. You do not HAVE to send STD’s. They are a relatively new thing and most guests don’t expect them. I definitely would not send them to anyone who is not invited to the wedding. They are only for people who will be getting an invitation.
Post # 9
It’s definitely not too late, and then again, you don’t HAVE to send them out. I did mine as postcards from Vistaprint too, and they look very nice.
Post # 10
If you weren’t planning on doing them, I wouldn’t worry. I didn’t do them and nobody knows or cares.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t worry about. I only did them for my Out of Town guests because I’m getting married in the middle of the summer.
They aren’t mandatory no matter what anyone tells you.
Post # 12
You do not have to send Save the Dates. You can also send Save the Date emails or cheap postcards made on Moo.com, whatever. But – if you do send a Save the Date to someone – you HAVE to invite them. It is VERY rude to send a Save the Date, but not an invitation. It’s completely against etiquette, so it’s good that you aren’t planning on doing that. But yeah, you are not supposed to do that.
Post # 13
No, it’s not too late but also NO, you do not need them…UNLESS you have some Out of Town guests that will need to arrange travel and hotel accomodations, in this case I would send only the Out of Town guests a save the date. Vistaprint postcards may be the way to go if you’re on a tight budget.
Post # 14
I’m on a similar time-line. I’m trusting that relatives/out of towners have heard from word of mouth or our wedding website or our parents sending announcement emails. We’ll send invites 8 weeks prior, and that still should be plenty of time for people to plan.
I figure if they’re close enough to us that I *care* whether or not they come, then they’ll have heard about and saved the date already!
Post # 15
Thank you ladies! I’ll be keeping these things in mind.
Post # 16
I have no plans on making save the date cards. I’m on a tight budget too.