Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2020 - City, State
These might seem like simple questions, but you bees have been nothing but helpful, and I have great adoration for you.
1. So, “technically”, our wedding is a destination wedding. Most of my family is in the same state as me (however 2-4 hours away), and sprinkled around the US. This goes the same for my fiances family. We also have dear friends and family across the country and overseas. Due to us being so increadibly far from the people we would like to attend, we have discussed sending Save The Dates 10-11 months in advance and the invitations 8 months in advance.
Is this appropriate?
2. We are planning on having a TON of kids at our wedding. Lots of neices/nephews, our friends kids whom we are close too, etc. How do we accomadate them on our wedding invitation? Does anyone have an example? We want to offer the younger children a food option of chicken tenders and french fries. We are treating children 14+ (possibly 13+) as adults depending. We are looking at 15 kids under the age of 10.
I know this sounds chaotic, but we just don’t want to leave the kids out. Every single one we are inviting we are close to, and having them be part of our day will help us cherish it even more!
Post # 2
we have discussed sending Save The Dates 10-11 months in advance and the invitations 8 months in advance.
Is this appropriate? STD’s – yes, Invites – no. I would never send invites 8 months in advance, it’s unnecessary. The earliest i’ve ever seen invites sent is 12 weeks prior.
Kids – we addressed invites to the family and listed the kids. Then we had a space for total attending and names.
Post # 3
Yes, send the save the dates as soon as you have the location nailed down. Put your wedding website on it even if it is not built out yet.
No, don’t send the invites eight months in advance. Twelve weeks is fine.
List the kids’ names on the outer envelope. No need to give the kids a choice, just arrange for a kids meal for them. But I think 13 may be too high a cut off unless you know the tweens are picky eaters that prefer tenders and fries.
Post # 4
Save the Dates: Yes, send out 10mos in advance
Invites: No need to send out super early if the save the dates go out. Just send 6-8wks before the wedding
Kids on Invites: Add name on outer envelope or addres to: Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, Jane, Jim and Johnny if you are not using two envelopes
Kids Meals: Arrange for a number of kids meals. For those close to the cutoff age, make sure to call the people and ask if their child would prefer a kids or an adult meal. And let those with small kids know that there will be a kids meal option. You can also just have RSVPs that state “Children’s Meal”
We had a lot of family kids at our wedding and one thing that my mom did was get clear plastic cups with lids and straws for the kids. She filled them with crayons, coloring pages, activity pages, dolls, cars, etc. (there were ones for girls and boys) to keep them entertained throughout the reception. She got them all at the $1 store, so they were pretty cheap. Also, since all the drinks at the venue were served in glass, the plastic cups came in handy for the parents! They could just pour the kids drink into the plastic cup and didn’t have to worry about them dropping one. Just an idea! Here they were:
Post # 5
I’d allow the parents to pick children’s meal or not on the rsvp instead of automatically giving it to kids. My girls at 9 and 11 are already gravitating towards adult entrees. I think once they are both 12 it’d be hard to convince them to take nuggets over a regular meal. And boys eat a lot more than girls, so they might want more food at an earlier age than 14.
I’m giving the parents the option and then if they don’t specify, I’m setting a cutoff of 12 for kids meals.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
We told everyone the date and location 10 months in advance as the “Save the Date” and then mailed our invitations in January for a May wedding. We wanted everyone to be able to buy flights and reserve lodging since it’s a vacation destination and over a holiday weekend. I think 8 months out is a little long though, I would wait until 4-5 months out if I were you.
I would treat kids that are 13+ as adults. My venue had a choice for kids meals, so anyone under 13 should be able to find something that they like and that is filling enough. We are having prime rib and lobster as our entree options, I can’t imagine a 9 or 11 year old needing an entree like that like PP mentioned! I agree though that having a 14 year old order a kids meal is too much.