(Closed) save the dates… whats too early?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8572 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would say it’s way too early.

When I got engaged, we had set our date for 10/31/14 – it was a few months shy of being 2 years away.

We are sending them out in sometime between feb & april for our october wedding.

Post # 4
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Way too early! People will probably forget since it’s so far out. I was so eager too and wanted to send ours out at 9-10 months but my partner convinced me to wait until around 7-8. It ended up being way better and now I see his reasoning. I get wanting to DO something after getting engaged though – what about sending out engagement announcements?

Post # 5
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wouldn’t send them out til 6 months before unless you are having a destination wedding. Our engagment is 2 yrs too but I’m no where near even thinking about that stuff. I’d hold off til like 8 months before to order them. 

You could put an announcement in the paper tho.

Post # 6
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@GB520:  Yeah I think an engagement announcement in the paper is a good idea. 


WAY too early for save the dates.  A lot can happen with venues and you might have to change your date TBH.  My wedding is Sept 2014 and we are sending them out in January.

Post # 7
6516 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@emstape:  Way to early!! Hold your horses lol

I sent mine out at 8 months. I think thats the earliest anyobe should send them out if they are having a local wedding (when I say local..I mean you dont have to fly anywhere)

if you are having a destination wedding…than it woukd appropriate to send it out a year in advance

Post # 8
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Remember, everyone who gets a save the date must be invited…. don’t want to send STDs to someone who 18 months from now you no longer want to invite, for whatever reason.


Fiance and I are excited to send out STDs as well… our wedding is oct 14 and were planning on waiting til Feb or so to send them.

Post # 9
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

WAY early unless your wedding is on the moon or something ;). I get being excited (we also had a 2 year engagement), but sending them out now will make people think it’s for June 2014, or completely forget altogether, which nie gates the purpose of the STD. We have a lot of Out of Town guests and just sent ours out last week for our June 2014 wedding. So my advice is to just wait a year.

Post # 10
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My wedding is going to fall on Colimbus day weekend so I am sending mind out at the end of January. 

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