Post # 1
My date is in November – but 90% of my guests are travelling, and it’s a busy weekend for the city. Do you think it’s too early to send Save-The-Dates? My Maid/Matron of Honor keeps telling me to wait until the wedding is 6 months out (May) because otherwise it “looks weird.”
I just approved the final draft – so I’m not sure if I’m justifying sending them out early to myself because they are burning a hole in my pocket (computer? haha), or if it really makes sense! The Save-The-Date Cards are electronic and will link to my wedding website with all the travel/accomodation info as well.
Advice from etiquette bees appreciated 🙂
Post # 3
There really is not etiquette when it comes to sending out save the dates; however, if you are having a destinatiion wedding and/or the majority of the guests are going to have to travel to your wedding, it is a good idea to send them out as early as you can. I sent ours out 8 months in advance.
Post # 4
Most of my guests are out of town too, so I sent them out about 9 months in advance. I think it’s nice to give people a heads up about when your wedding is going to be so they can start thinking about it. Since you’re not asking for a response back from them, I don’t see any harm in sending them out early.
Post # 5
I read somewhere that 6 months ahead is the norm, so we’re planning to send ours out 7 months ahead of the wedding date. I’m sure your guests will appreciate the advance notice.
For us, 1/3 of our guests are flying in from all over the world. We’re also planning a weekend wedding, so we expect just about everybody to be booking hotel rooms for at least a night. So we’ve already called/emailed/spoke to in person to those invited about the date. Sending out the save-the-date is actually our second reminder (well, it’s really because I want to send out pretty things!).
Post # 6
I think ASAP is best. Especially if it’s a busy weekend in your city and rooms may book quicker than normal. You don’t want your guests to decline because of overpriced rooms and flights or no room availability.
Post # 7
Okay, Phew. I love when I ask a question and totally hear what I wanted to hear! haha!
I’m super excited to send them out!
Post # 8
90% of our guests are coming in from out of town too, and a lot of them are on a budget (recent graduates, grad students, young professionals, etc.,), so we’re sending ours out a year in advance to give them all time to save and plan. I remember I got a save the date for a friend’s wedding 11 months in advance once, and at first I thought that was way too far ahead in advance, but he was in Seattle and I was in Chicago at the time and I ended up really appreciating the large amount of advanced notice.
Post # 9
2/3 of our guests are flying in. As soon as I booked the date, I sent out an e-mail or called my family and close friends to let them know the date.
The STD’s are going out next month, which will be 7 months ahead.
Send them out whenever works for you!
Post # 10
Every single guest of mine is an OOTer…we sent our STD’s 10 months out…and just sent the Formal Invitation a few weeks ago (3 months before the wedding) So many of my guests have told me how much they appreciated us sending them early, a lot of people told me they wouldn’t have been able to plan on traveling if I would’ve sent them any later. If so many are coming from out of town, I don’t think it’s ever too early to give your guests a heads up! With gas prices rising and they WILL continue to rise, people may want to order their flights and arrange for travel as soon as possible!
Post # 11
I’m in the same boat, my wedding is next March but about 95% of the guests are Out of Town and we’re going to send ours out at the end of April, so it’ll be 10 months out. I say do it whenever you feel comfortable. If you want to send them now, send them now 🙂
ETA: I know the feeling of them burning a hole in your pocket. Mine are printed out at my mom’s house right now, and I can’t wait to get down there this weekend and address them all and get them ready (even if we aren’t sending them right now) lol
Post # 12
Our wedding is a little over a month before yours and we sent ours out 2-3 weeks ago. They didn’t have to be sent this early but we’re getting married in a tourist town on a holiday weekend so we wanted our guests to have enough time to book rooms.
I say send them now. It won’t hurt for your guests to receive them a little early.
Post # 13
Do it now!!!
My wedding is in October and I sent mine at Christmas. They were ready and everyone was asking for details, why not give them something official. Ours had our wedding website with as much info as possible but we made sure to tell everyone that we’d be adding more over time.
Some people have jobs that require advanced planning for time off, why not give them the info if you have it!
Post # 14
I’m going to send them out asap 🙂 Awesome!