Post # 1
Hello fellow bees! I was wondering on when the best time to send out Save-the-Dates is…We have already ordered and received our save-the-date postcards, but our wedding is not for another 9 months (May 24th, 2014). I thought it might be too soon and was thinking that the end of September might be better! When did you send out your save-the-dates?
Post # 3
Are you having a destination wedding?
Post # 4
My wedding is the weekend after yours and we will be sending ours out at the end of August/Beginning of Septmeber, but thats because 3/4 of our family is from out of state and even we live in a different state than our wedding will take place.
Post # 5
Etiquette Snob here … lol.
Save The Dates have sort of replaced “Engagement Announcements”
But in fact NEITHER are required elements in the Wedding Process
In truth STDs were invented solely to make more money for the Wedding Stationery industry
All that said…
The important thing is to make sure you’ve Dotted your I-s and Crossed all your T-s BEFORE you take this step
You truly need to have figured out your Wedding Budget – Guest List – Venue – And Date
If you just send em out cause you’ve gotten Engaged, and Picked a Date, without doing the other bit of homework…
Then you could end up being one of the MANY BRIDES who find themselves in the sticky situation where you’ve sent an STD to someone you cannot ultimately send a Wedding Invitation to (or have had a falling out with in the many months leading up to your wedding… sad but it does happen too often here on WBee)
Generally speaking the STDs don’t need to go out more than 9 months to a year in advance.
The far end of the lead time is needed if your plans include a Destination Wedding, or a popular vacation time (Christmas) or a Long Weekend etc.
Hope this helps,
Post # 6
@asscherlover. We are not having a destination wedding, but almost all of our guests will be traveling from different states.
@Excited To Bee. That’s a very good idea. Guess I should start writing out addresses 🙂
@This Time Round Oh we’ve got all of the budget stuff figured out. We made our own STDs (love vistaprint btw….got 100 STDs for 5!) We chose STDs so we could let our family and friends know far in advance. As mentioned above most everyone will be traveling from out of state and our wedding is over Memorial Day Weekend. I didn’t want to send them out too far in advance, but wanted to give enough time to prepare for taking time off and planning, etc.
Post # 7
I am sending mine out a year early then my formal invitations 6 months in advanced. I am having a destination wedding with people coming from out side the country and at a vacation desination where if they want to do OTHER activities some of them have to be booked fairly far in advanced. So the super early dates are necsesary
Post # 8
I almost posted the same exact question (I’m glad I looked through recent posts first!).
My wedding is also next May, and I’m still planning on sending out my Save-the-Date in mid-September.
We only have about 10 people that will be travelling from out-of-state (we have family/friends that live in CA, MA, and NY… our wedding will be in upstate NY). I’ve known people who sent their STD’s out A YEAR beforehand… so 9 months isn’t terribly early 🙂
Post # 9
@LadyMoriarty Our wedding is in upstate NY too! The reason we went with the 24th instead of the 17th of May is that we graduate that weekend! We also thought it might be better for everyone who is traveling long distances to have some extra time for traveling 🙂
Post # 10
We sent ours out about 5 months in advance. Ours isn’t a destination wedding either but a little over half of our guests are coming from out of town – we’re getting married in the city where FI and I live but we’re both from different States.