(Closed) Save the dates? Yes or no

posted 4 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

Save the dates are not necessary.  We didn’t send save the dates.  We had only a handful of out of town guests so we just relayed the date and any pertinent information for travel to them via word of mouth.

If you want to send them, you usually send them out anywhere between 6-12 months prior to your wedding date.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I really like save the dates.  Even if people are in town, it lets people know so they can plan around your wedding.  Sure, your close family already knows when your wedding is, but some of your extended family might not.  I also have some really disorganized family.  Even if we told them when the wedding is, they are more likely to remember it when they have a card they can stick on the fridge.  I’d say send them out around 9 months ahead of the wedding.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I have always thought that Save-The-Date Cards are unnecessary, unless you’re getting married on like a holiday or long weekend or something when people might normally be away. However, my Future Mother-In-Law, step mother and grandmother are all insisting that we send out Save-The-Date Cards because we’re getting married the first weekend of December (next year). I understand their worries, so will send them out just to keep everyone happy lol.

As PPs said, you usually send them out 6 – 12 months before the wedding.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

They aren’t necessary. I didn’t really see a purpose for them, but my mom insisted and agreed to pay for them outside of my budget, so I did them. Usually people send them out 4-6 months in advance. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

We are sending them and don’t have out of town guests. I guess we didn’t see a reason not to. As for costs, we got 125 stds for 100 dollars, so it wasn’t a big deal to us. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Not necessary, more like a modern trend. They’re a bonus. I think I sent mine about 6 or 7 months before the wedding. Got some super cheap casual postcards from Vistaprint for $20.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Out of town guests are one part of it, but also think about the occupations of your guests! I only say that because I learned from my Future Mother-In-Law that the nurses at the hospital need to have their vacation put in like six months in advance, and it’s not like they always have evenings and weekends off.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I thought Save the Dates were unnecessary and I didn’t plan on sending them out until I had handfuls of people continuously ask me when my date was… So I just recently decided to send them out, that way people would (hopefully) remember.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Several friends and family have asked several times, so we are including a mention of when our wedding will be in our holiday card 🙂 We wanted to send a holiday card anyway, so it’s basically no extra cost!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I find them helpful as guest, because it helps me to plan around your wedding. As a bride, it ensures that everyone is aware of your date and can prioritize it. We picked our date a year out, and some of guests already had multiple weddings to go to! Another benefit that I’ve noticed in getting Save the Dates together for myself is that it’s ensured that we have the guest list and everyone’s addresses locked down months in advance—that’s a lot of work that it’s nice to get out of the way early.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

If you’re getting married on LDW I would definitely send them out 12 months in advance, before anyone plans a vacation. Even if they aren’t out of town, you need to let them know before they make plans to leave town lol

My only caution is that once you send a STD, you must also send an invitation. Sending them to family is safe, and if you are sure of your guests list then go for it, but if there is anyone on there you might envision not being close with a year out, I would be careful about sending one to them. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think they are unnecessary, unless you have huge amounts of people out of town.

I did them because my mom insisted, but she also offered to pay for them.  It was like $60 for 100 of them which wasn’t too bad, but it was just an added hastle for me to design them.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

CaitlinP:  Since you are getting married LDW and MOST people make vacation plans for that weekend, I would send Save The Dates OR send your invites earlier! Also, if anyone is traveling 2 hours or more they will probably want a hotel over driving back after a wedding. However, depending on your city – hotels might fill up quickly with LDW.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  BrideK2Wings.

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