(Closed) Save the dates/invitations

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Welcome to the hive!! Yes I believe adults should receive their own invitations. Unless there’s like 5 adult  children then I’d just send to “The Smith Family” or whoever. But only bc sending 6 invitations to one house is just ridiculous!! Lol 

Post # 4
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No, I am in the same situation and I would do one invitation per household. 

Post # 5
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

technically adult children living at home should receive their own invitation. Are you inviting the adult children with a +1?  If not, it’s probably okay to just send 1 invitation to the household with the child/children’s name on it.  If you are inviting them with guests, I think it’s best to send their own invite.

Post # 6
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Proper etiquette says anyone over like 16 living with their parents gets their own invitation. I say, fuck that. I never received separate invitations until I moved in with my husband, even though I didn’t live at home all four years of college. I didn’t care. Seems weirder to me to send multiple invitations. I just wrote all their names on the inner envelope (and yes, with an “and guest” where I was giving them – for those college-aged and older).

Post # 7
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Any adult guest gets their own invite. So, anyone over the age of 18 gets their own invite. I’ll make an exception if that 18 year old is still in high school, but otherwise….

Post # 8
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Technically, they get their  own invite, but I can’t imagine anyone will actually be upest if you put them all together, so it’s not a must.

Post # 9
1502 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What if you include two inner envelopes, one for the parents and one for the child?  That way they’re still getting to open their own invite, without having to send multiple invitations to the same house.  It’d be a little more than normal for postage, but probably cheaper than sending two.

Post # 10
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Want to really save on time and money…

Don’t send Save The Dates at all !!

They are not a requirement… altho they are NICE if one is planning a Destination Wedding (how they originated)… be that in a far off spot… or in a city where others wouldn’t naturally assume you’d get married (ie not where you live or grew up)

Save The Dates are essentially an Announcement – Notice – Heads Up, in reality they mean nothing in regards to the Wedding itself (one is not invited until they actually have an Invite in hand)

So save yourself the time, money and grief that this piece of Stationery can cause.

Hope this helps,

PS… As for the Invites.  The Etiquette Norm is … One Invite for Each Address. 

* So a Married, Living Together Couple = 1…

* Couple with Underaged Kids = 1,

* Engaged Couple living apart = 2,

* Dating Couple living apart = 2,

* Anyone over the age of 18 (ie kids) even tho they are living at home with Mom & Dad = 1 their own


Post # 11
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @kb7:  the issue is usually that the Envelopes are a tight fit to begin with… so getting two sets of invites into an outer envelope doesn’t usually work.


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