Post # 1
So I am very very behind in my planning. 5 months out and I have a LOT to do. Anyway, my question is this: If we are inviting family friends and their children are our age but still live at home, do we have to send a separate save the date/invite to the childhood friend as well as the parents? Trying to save where we can and as much as we can. Is this a place to do it or do we HAVE to send separate cards?
Thanks in advance for your help!
Post # 3
Welcome to the hive!! Yes I believe adults should receive their own invitations. Unless there’s like 5 adult children then I’d just send to “The Smith Family” or whoever. But only bc sending 6 invitations to one house is just ridiculous!! Lol
Post # 4
No, I am in the same situation and I would do one invitation per household.
Post # 5
technically adult children living at home should receive their own invitation. Are you inviting the adult children with a +1? If not, it’s probably okay to just send 1 invitation to the household with the child/children’s name on it. If you are inviting them with guests, I think it’s best to send their own invite.
Post # 6
Proper etiquette says anyone over like 16 living with their parents gets their own invitation. I say, fuck that. I never received separate invitations until I moved in with my husband, even though I didn’t live at home all four years of college. I didn’t care. Seems weirder to me to send multiple invitations. I just wrote all their names on the inner envelope (and yes, with an “and guest” where I was giving them – for those college-aged and older).
Post # 7
Any adult guest gets their own invite. So, anyone over the age of 18 gets their own invite. I’ll make an exception if that 18 year old is still in high school, but otherwise….
Post # 8
Technically, they get their own invite, but I can’t imagine anyone will actually be upest if you put them all together, so it’s not a must.
Post # 9
What if you include two inner envelopes, one for the parents and one for the child? That way they’re still getting to open their own invite, without having to send multiple invitations to the same house. It’d be a little more than normal for postage, but probably cheaper than sending two.
Post # 10
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Want to really save on time and money…
Don’t send Save The Dates at all !!
They are not a requirement… altho they are NICE if one is planning a Destination Wedding (how they originated)… be that in a far off spot… or in a city where others wouldn’t naturally assume you’d get married (ie not where you live or grew up)
Save The Dates are essentially an Announcement – Notice – Heads Up, in reality they mean nothing in regards to the Wedding itself (one is not invited until they actually have an Invite in hand)
So save yourself the time, money and grief that this piece of Stationery can cause.
Hope this helps,
PS… As for the Invites. The Etiquette Norm is … One Invite for Each Address.
* So a Married, Living Together Couple = 1…
* Couple with Underaged Kids = 1,
* Engaged Couple living apart = 2,
* Dating Couple living apart = 2,
* Anyone over the age of 18 (ie kids) even tho they are living at home with Mom & Dad = 1 their own
Post # 11
TO @kb7: the issue is usually that the Envelopes are a tight fit to begin with… so getting two sets of invites into an outer envelope doesn’t usually work.