(Closed) Saving for Wedding

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t see anything wrong with saving for your wedding. It’s always good to have extra money laying around and when your wedding does happen, you’d have done half the work (if not all) already!

Even if he doesn’t end up marrying you, this could still be your wedding fund (just with another guy). You could get the dress YOU want, decorations you want without have to compromise as much due to budgetary reasons.

 

Post # 4
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would just say that it is savings.  It’s good to be saving for other things anyway like emergencies.  I really go by Mr Bee’s plan that you make sure you are on the same page and then leave it alone.  It worked for us.

Post # 5
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173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Scottish_lassie:I went through the same thing…moved and changed jobs while “waiting!” We had already lived together for 18 months when we moved and once I got my new job I could really start saving. Maybe it’s because I somehow anticipated we would get engaged soon…but I felt completely comfortable telling my then boyfriend that I felt my new job was going to allow us to put enough in savings to seriously thing about marriage. We were engaged relatively soon after that! 

Maybe you could potentially drop a hint that you’re going to start saving a certain amount and mention that you’re hoping it could one day help pay for your wedding…without going into all the detail that you calculated exactly what it’s going to take.

Post # 8
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1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Nothing wrong with saving for a wedding even if your not engaged, I’ve been doing the same thing for over a year, and I’m still waiting for my sparkle.

I opened a savings account, and on every paycheck I automatically have the bank withdraw funds from my everyday account and put it in my savings. I do the same with SO’s account. We still have seperate accounts but he coontributes on every pay check too. 

It’s unbelieveably how quick it adds up to!! I was taking a look at it the other day while I was paying bills online etc. and it had surpassed what I thought it would be. We might even have enough money in savings for the wedding and honeymoon, on a strict budget though!!

You’ve got a great idea, nothing wrong with saving!!

Post # 9
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357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I did this too, at first I was saving or a bedroom set, but then when I started building it up I couldn’t stop thinking of it as my wedding fund, even though I wasnt engaged yet. I kept saving and I just called it savings. I never told my Fiance how much I had in my savings until we were actually engaged, it was so nice to already have a nice chunk of change in the bank account 🙂

Post # 10
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3639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just call it savings. People who aren’t even in relationships can have wedding funds, so it’s normal to save pre-engagement. However, given that the Boyfriend or Best Friend is a little touchy at the moment, I see nothing wrong with just calling it savings. 

Post # 11
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I started saving for the wedding long before we were engaged but he’s always been a saver, so I just said I was following his good example. If anyone asks, you could just say you’re trying to get into good habits as saving will be handy to support you in the future.

Post # 12
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2408 posts
Buzzing bee

I started a savings account for our wedding a year into our relationship after we had our definitive “I’m going to marry you” talk. I didn’t tell him at first but eventually did after a few months. He was pleased I took the initiative. At this point we have about 80% of our proposed budget so starting to save during the waiting period is the best thing ever. 

Here’s the thing, no one needs to know what you’re saving for and you should never feel ashamed for saving for anything. Just go and do it. Extra money never hurt anyone!

Post # 13
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1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I talked to my Boyfriend or Best Friend about this last night, and he said that he thinks we should start a wedding fund after we get back from our trip this spring. So nope, having a wedding fund is not a crazy idea, if anything it’s a good one because no one wants to go into a marriage with unnessary debt.

Post # 14
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1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Scottish_lassie:  saving for your wedding is an awesome idea regardless if you tell him or not! Girls have dreams bigger than the now and so if you don’t want to tell him to freak him out or what not, don’t! You might want some amazing things for YOUR dream wedding and even if its not him who you marry, you’ll still have that money for when THE ONE comes. ;]

DO IT! I love saving money for goals, although mine are usually closer, so I’m sure it feels great and if it helps your anxiety, go for it!

Post # 15
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I agree. You can use it for anything. If telling yourself that you’re saving for your wedding motivates you to do it and keeps you from spending it, then there’s nothing wrong with that. I don’t see why he has to know. When the time comes and he proposes, you can let him know then. 😉

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