(Closed) Saw a dating website on FI's iPad…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
7813 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@anonymouse1234:  A few things stand out to me. If it was a popup rather than his account, he would have been as surprised as you were and had no problem showing you.

Also, you are already getting defensive for him and coming up with excuses even though you have evidence that speaks to the contrary in front of you. It always surprises me when people say, “he’d never cheat on me, he’s a good guy” when they are looking at hookup sites the guy went on. 

He may be a good guy – I’m sure he is or you wouldn’t be with him! But that doesn’t mean he isn’t cheating. Good people do shitty stuff sometimes. Obviously only you know the answer and what you’re willing to tolerate. It’s possible he was just browsing but that’s still a crappy thing to do when you’re engaged. 

Post # 18
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@anonymouse1234:  that’s really shady. Listen to your gut.

My husband would risk being narassed over porn to prove he wasn’t doing anything shady.

Post # 19
8700 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m leaning heavily towards he was watching porn (didn’t want you to know) and it was a pop-up.

I think his devices would be locked if he was actually cheating or looking to cheat!

Post # 20
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Usually SO looking at dating websites is SUPER suspicious, but free f*** find sounds EXACTLY like a porn pop-up. I think you need just outright ask him. 

Post # 21
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

It probably IS a pop up, but if that doesn’t sit well with you and you think he is lying then perhaps you should go onto the sites and see if he has an account made. 

Post # 22
2865 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds like porn pop-ups. 

Post # 23
2265 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@anonymouse1234:  If it were me, I’d say nothing but quietly check the iPad or phone for awhile to see if there is anything else suspicious or incriminating. I’d also go check out that dating website to see if he has a profile there. 

Post # 24
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@anonymouse1234:  The website definitely could have been a pop-up, but that plus the apps would definitely concern me… :-/

Post # 25
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@anonymouse1234:  Have you ever gone on a porn site? I have. Tons of tabs open that you did not click on. If there are no other signs to him cheating, I would just give him the benefit of the doubt. If people checked my tabs after visiting a porn site, they’d think I was into mature porn, incest, transexuals, local casual sex, and God knows what else! Don’t freak yourself out over this. He was probably being honest-ish. I doubt the tabs popped up because of a game he was playing. He was probably watching porn, but not signing up for cheating websites. 

Post # 26
1072 posts
Bumble bee

I also think they’re pop-ups from watching porn!

Post # 27
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Sorry, but this sounds super shady.  If it was just porn I don’t know why he would refuse to click on it.

Post # 28
2469 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t think it’s anything more than porn pop-ups. Sometimes you don’t even realize they have opened. He was probably worried about you getting upset about the porn, and that’s why he closed the site right away.

Post # 29
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Porn pop ups for sure! He was probably embarrassed he got caught watching porn! Lol

Post # 31
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Both websites you mentioned are pop-ups from one of the biggest porn sites on the interwebz. 

…don’t ask me how I know. 

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