Post # 17
@anonymouse1234: A few things stand out to me. If it was a popup rather than his account, he would have been as surprised as you were and had no problem showing you.
Also, you are already getting defensive for him and coming up with excuses even though you have evidence that speaks to the contrary in front of you. It always surprises me when people say, “he’d never cheat on me, he’s a good guy” when they are looking at hookup sites the guy went on.
He may be a good guy – I’m sure he is or you wouldn’t be with him! But that doesn’t mean he isn’t cheating. Good people do shitty stuff sometimes. Obviously only you know the answer and what you’re willing to tolerate. It’s possible he was just browsing but that’s still a crappy thing to do when you’re engaged.
Post # 18
@anonymouse1234: that’s really shady. Listen to your gut.
My husband would risk being narassed over porn to prove he wasn’t doing anything shady.
Post # 19
I’m leaning heavily towards he was watching porn (didn’t want you to know) and it was a pop-up.
I think his devices would be locked if he was actually cheating or looking to cheat!
Post # 20
Usually SO looking at dating websites is SUPER suspicious, but free f*** find sounds EXACTLY like a porn pop-up. I think you need just outright ask him.
Post # 21
It probably IS a pop up, but if that doesn’t sit well with you and you think he is lying then perhaps you should go onto the sites and see if he has an account made.
Post # 22
It sounds like porn pop-ups.
Post # 23
@anonymouse1234: If it were me, I’d say nothing but quietly check the iPad or phone for awhile to see if there is anything else suspicious or incriminating. I’d also go check out that dating website to see if he has a profile there.
Post # 24
@anonymouse1234: The website definitely could have been a pop-up, but that plus the apps would definitely concern me… :-/
Post # 25
@anonymouse1234: Have you ever gone on a porn site? I have. Tons of tabs open that you did not click on. If there are no other signs to him cheating, I would just give him the benefit of the doubt. If people checked my tabs after visiting a porn site, they’d think I was into mature porn, incest, transexuals, local casual sex, and God knows what else! Don’t freak yourself out over this. He was probably being honest-ish. I doubt the tabs popped up because of a game he was playing. He was probably watching porn, but not signing up for cheating websites.
Post # 26
I also think they’re pop-ups from watching porn!
Post # 27
Sorry, but this sounds super shady. If it was just porn I don’t know why he would refuse to click on it.
Post # 28
I don’t think it’s anything more than porn pop-ups. Sometimes you don’t even realize they have opened. He was probably worried about you getting upset about the porn, and that’s why he closed the site right away.
Post # 29
Porn pop ups for sure! He was probably embarrassed he got caught watching porn! Lol
Post # 30
@AlwaysSunny: I am totally fine with him watching porn and I watch it occasionally also, but we do not watch it together. Just not his or my thing!
No one is labelling me as irrational… I have an anxiety disorder so I tend to blow things out of proportion! For example, if I don’t hear from someone (whether it be Fiance or a friend) for a while – I’ll just assume the worse (car crash, sick, etc.). That’s why I am calling myself irrational!
That’s why I felt better when I Saw the FFF website. I have watched porn before and I know that webcam/hookup sites come up all the time. Xdating seemed a little different, with people with actual profiles but it was a ton of naked women and theres a webcam section too.
See above. I have watched it before and I have seen the crazy shit that pops up! I wouldn’t want someone to look at my history either! LOL
Thanks ladies for all your responses! I know it is hard to judge someone when you really have no details about them and all I’m saying is something semi- suspicious. I was able to see on his iPad he went no further than the main page of the website, and of course I searched for an account, and there was no account to be found.
I am going to trust him and think he was probably just embarassed he was watching porn or even looking at it. He tends to be a little shy-er about sex than I am. I would imagine those sites are just pop-ups, since he had an actual porn site open (with hot latinas! who knew he was into hot latinas! LOL). I will just start having to sit next to him on the couch instead of on the other one across the room! Thanks again!
Post # 31
Both websites you mentioned are pop-ups from one of the biggest porn sites on the interwebz.
…don’t ask me how I know.