(Closed) Saw a dating website on FI's iPad…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why would he delete the porn website that led to the “ad pop-up” but not delete the ad itself when he was “done”???

That mixed with the action he took to delete it without explaining so hastly, speaks volumes compared to his words.

Sorry I think you should look into it more.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If he had the porn site open that changes things. So retracting what I said

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I manage a dating profile for one of my single friends. She wants me to play online matchmaker for her.

I didn’t tell my husband at first because it seemed like such a minor thing, like why would he care about my friend’s dating profile? But he saw it in my browsing history. At first he got mad, but then when I showed him what I was actually doing, he calmed down. And now he helps me manage it, lol.

I want to think that there’s an equally innocent explanation. If there wasn’t, then why would he leave the tab open while showing you his iPad? Wouldn’t he hide it if he knew he was doing something wrong?

I know that on Firefox, sometimes ads pop up in another tab but it doesn’t automatically switch your browser to that tab. It may be a setting to where pop-ups show up in another tab. So if the tab opened in the background, maybe he didn’t see it.

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Pop ups happen.. however I’d be weirded out that he wouldn’t click on the ad when I asked.

We watch tv shows on our desktop computer and there are a lot of popups. Either one of us would click on it to show the other if it meant not being suspected of doing something shady.

 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

@anonymouse1234:  I wish that you had said all this earlier.  I probably wouldn’t have posted.  

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Sounds like a porn site! I wouldn’t worry about it to be honest….

 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It sounds like he was just embarrassed about the pop up and that’s why he didn’t want you looking at him.  The way you describe him he sounds like a more reserved person, which I can relate to.  There have been times I didn’t want Fiance to see what sites I was looking at even if it was just for silly reasons.

Post # 40
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Worker bee

@anonymouse1234:  I say have an honest conversation with him. I think you’re right about him just watching porn and that being a pop up. But to clear your conscious i would talk to him.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@anonymouse1234:  I know this has been said but I want to help reassure you further – I feel like it was a pop-up from a porn website and he was embarrassed about looking at porn or something so he didn’t want to talk about it. Also the FFF site is for sure a pop-up. If there’s naked women on a dating site then it’s probably an ad and not a legit site like eharmony or something.

Post # 43
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Helper bee

those porn pop ups are sooo annoying. Sometimes I will be on a non-porn website that have a porn pop up and if my sound is on silent i have no idea it is there because it is smaller than the window I am in. I have also had a random porn pop up when my sound was on and i only knew because i heard groaning sounds coming from my computer.

 

I think you guys should watch some porn together and bang. 🙂

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@anonymouse1234:  I don’t think you should mention it again cause either way it could create a problem. If he now says that he was looking at porn, you might be upset that he was dishonest when you first asked him. Some situations really require you to wait for time to give you the answer and it always does. If he’s creeping he will have another slip up and it will be a lot more concrete!

 

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@anonymouse1234:   your thoughts are not irrational! if you don’t feel better or cleared up, talk about it. Tell him how comfortable you are about him watching porn, I think that will make it easier to talk about. Marriage means honesty and being able to talk about the easy and the hard things!

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@JulietFoxtrot:  +1 

Even when porn sites are closed pop ups can still show up a few minutes after on apple products. Also, some pop ups on apple products are timed and they don’t let you close out of them, they are a ploy to get you to click it (the subscription gets billed to your phone) so some of them actually have to stay open a certain amount of time to safely close them so you don’t subscribe to a pay site you don’t want. This is prominent on free sites. Odds are he was watching porn on a free site and HAD to leave the pop ups open so he woupodnt subscribe, and was embarrassed for you to see. The pop ups have nothing to do with what you watch either, the local f*** sites are the most common pop ups. 

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