- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Does anyone else’s blood boil over when guests ask for plus ones? Or is that just me?
Are some people just really clueless when it comes to weddings? These are just two examples of the questions/comments from our guests after our invitations went out last week:
- FI’s friend: “I need to hurry up and find a date for you wedding! I asked Aggie and she said she doesn’t want to come.” (Aggie is an ex gf and the friend is single and was not given a plus one)
- My friend: “soooo…does my name only mean I don’t get a plus one? I think this guy is going to stick around” (sooo..what is “this guy’s” name? I don’t even know his name and have never met him in my life! Why should he take up the space of friends that I wanted to invite but didn’t have the space for???)
Maybe it’s the stress of it all, but I literally want to scream when someone asks me about plus ones. We limited the guestlist to 200 but we are really hoping for 180.
It’s costing us $300 per adult and $95 for children. Why should I spend 300 dollars on a stranger? With that money, I’d rather save it or buy things for the home, or go out to nice dinners with the FI, or book an excursion on our honeymoon. Heck with that money, I can buy myself a mini ipad! Okay, apologies for the rant, but I get really riled up about this as we are paying for the wedding ourselves.
I decided to just address these questions head on by putting an FAQ on our wedding website. I tried to be as nice as possible, but can everyone please let me know if it sounds mean?
Hello wonderful guests! We have been receiving a ton of questions since our invitations have gone out, so we have compiled a list of the most commonly asked questions here.
Q: Can I bring a date?
A: We really do wish we can give all of our friends a plus one, but unfortunately we haven’t won the lotto yet! If the invitation and rsvp card are specifically addressed only to you with no mention of another name, please do not bring a date. It was very difficult working to fit in all the friends and family that we wish to celebrate with while staying on budget. Weddings are usually a whirlwind and during the hectic moments of our wedding, we wish to focus our time and attention to only those that we know – thank you in advance for not bringing an uninvited guest. If you have any questions regarding this, please call or email us..
Q: Can I bring my kids?
A: If the invitation specifically states your name + Family, then yes. If the invitation does not note this, then please do not bring your children. We are limiting children to the family of the bride and groom along with a few additional that have talked to us personally. The venue is charging us for all babies/toddlers/children. Even those who are not old enough to eat solid foods. Thank you for understanding. For questions, please contact one of us.
Q: How come so and so got a plus one and I didn’t?
A: For our friends that are married or engaged, they automatically received a plus one. The single folks automatically did not receive plus ones. For our friends that are in relationships it came down to many factors with the main one being whether we have met their significant others and how serious they are. And no…meeting them for two seconds in passing at a club/restaurant doesn’t count J
Q: What should I wear?
A: Our wedding is black tie optional. Although Los Angeles weather can be very hot in August, we are having an evening wedding on the rooftop so we suggest a light cardigan/sweater/jacket for the ladies.
Q: Do you prefer that we RSVP online or via mail?
A: Both methods are fine, but we prefer having our guests RSVP online.
Q: My guest and/or I are vegetarian/vegan/have allergies, should I let you know?
A: Yes of course! We want all of our guests to feel comfortable and have a great time at our wedding, so if you have any dietary restrictions please do not hesitate to let us know. We will try to be as accommodating as possible.
We are so excited to be celebrating this milestone in our lives with all of you! Please let us know if you have any questions or concerns that are not addressed above.