(Closed) Say what? You want a plus one because why???

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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5360 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@JenGirl:  That’s really good! I’m still iffy about mentioning the kids/dates thing at all but if it’s going to be done, this is the best way.

Post # 19
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Busy bee

I personally think the FAQ’s are kinda rude and a pushy statement when someone goes to visit your site.  They may seem offended or take it personally. I’d leave it out and have them come to you directly if they have questions, no matter how many times you need to repeat yourself.  

You aren’t a business, exclude “FAQ’s”.  

 

Post # 21
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975 posts
Busy bee

That’s easy, just say “We are on a budget” and leave it at that.  They are on a need to know basis. They don’t need to know everything.

 

Post # 22
Hostess
7941 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@JenGirl:  This is much better.

I still have some concerns about mentioning the dates/kids details but you would know your guests better than I do. I personally don’t agree with inviting some kids and not all kids and indicating that you have done so on your website might generate more problems than necessary for you.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsPanda99:  +1

I totally agree. OP – The FAQ does look as if you wrote it in the heat of the moment, plus I feel it takes away from the wedding ambience. No one wants a wedding full of rules and exclusions. By interacting with those um, misbehaving and rudely asking about +1s, you are at least giving your wedding a personal touch. A FAQ page ruins all that. Just my .02.

Post # 25
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192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think you can and should invite whomever you want – whether kids or significant others.  I just don’t think it’s necessary, nor do I think it’s wise, to explain in FAQ form on your website.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper

For me, +1 invitations are a core wedding tradition, so if I had ever received an invitation to a wedding expecting me to come alone, I would have been greatly offended and declined. It would probably have seriously injured the friendship. Fortunately I haven’t had this experience and as a bride now I will not be creating it.

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper

@MrsNewDay:  That is the exactly word I was looking for – ambience. All I could think of was “vibe” and “atmosphere,” which didn’t work at all. I like a combination of our answers, lol 😉 

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@bruinchick4:  

“Oh and I also had a friend flat out tell me in front of a lot of other friends. “why are you being so cheap? why can’t i have a plus one?” This friend is single…”

This ‘friend’ would not be at my wedding. Period, end of discussion. I don’t see how she could bounce back from that comment.

 

Post # 30
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7813 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@joya_aspera:  I agree with you – I expect a +1. I wouldn’t attend a wedding alone, whether I am engaged, dating someone, or “single.” I would have extended a +1 to everyone I invited if I were having a local ceremony.

Post # 31
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434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@bruinchick4:  I totally understand how you feel about getting asked about plus ones, though I think if you’re going to have an FAQ section on your website, I’d shorten it to something like what

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@JenGirl:  has suggested.

Personally, I’d prefer to deal with this on a 1:1 basis but I also am a pushover when it comes to these things. We did get a few people who added uninvited +1s and their teenage kids to their RSVP, but we’re having a domestic Destination Wedding and it was only a few people so we let it go. The way I see it, at least they’re asking you if they can bring a +1 and not just adding it to their RSVP like our guests did!

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