(Closed) Say what? You want a plus one because why???

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 107
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192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@AllieBear725:  Wrong. Look at any etiquette book, including Emily Post. Only married, engaged and cohabitating couples are invited as couples, as a “rule”. And members of the wedding party should get plus ones. 

Post # 108
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10 posts
Newbee

@JenGirl:  Yes, I agree, you rewrote it perfectly! No harshness/bitterness, just information.

Post # 109
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192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m astounded by this thread. A bride and groom can invite whomever they want to their wedding. Yes, they are absolutely allowed to decide for you. It’s their party – stands to reason, doesn’t it? I’m no longer following this absurdity.

 

Post # 110
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@shrinkgirl:  Sure, they can invite whoever they want.  It’s just rude to decide that one person’s relationship is more important or valuable than another.  It’s arbitrary and hurtful to those whose SOs are considered unimportant.

Post # 111
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TaurianDoll:  That’s so interesting, because I’m from a “small town Southern area” and I’m very against +1’s. Everyone I know has had very restrictive wedding guest lists because we’re all on tight budgets. Not a single one of my peers has had a wedding of 100+ people.

I always assume that the people who insist on +1’s for all guests are rich folk who live in big cities and drop $100+pp on catering. I read on another thread somebody saying that giving everyone a +1 only increased their wedding cost by a few grand, so they thought it was worth it to make their guests happy. I’m reading that and thinking, “ONLY A FEW GRAND?? That’s almost half of our entire budget! O_O;” 

Post # 112
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@carrotstick:  LOL yeah.. we’re up to $140 pp and we’re definitely NOT open to spending a few extra grand. and richmond can be pricey too. 

Post # 114
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TaurianDoll:  Yeah, Richmond is actually so pricey that we’re getting married a few hours away in the mountains. All the venues we liked were either our of our budget or had a mandatory caterer or minimum food cost that was out of our budget. By going out of town we were able to find a venue that lets you bring in your own caterer AND alcohol, which is saving us a ton of money.

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@bruinchick4:  I’m having the same experiences as you are. Caterers were quoting me $80/head for food that would have cost $20 in a restaurant. It’s insane. The costs were so inflated on everything that we are having a MUCH more casual wedding than I wanted. Now I’m out of budget with zero decorations and trying to figure out how to class up an empty room on the cheap, haha.

Post # 115
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@shrinkgirl:  A bride and groom can invite whomever they want to their wedding.

No one said they can’t.

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