Post # 1
Hi ladies! I am planning a surprise wedding so my family and friends currently don’t know we’re getting married, but I’m having trouble deciding on a dress, especially since the ones that I’ve purchased (via ebay and craigslist) are just a wee bit too short.The wedding is a backyard wedding in Florida in the Fall, so it will be sunny and hot. The guests will be casual (shorts and sundresses mostly) so I don’t want to be too formal.
I’ll try to take actual pictures of me in the gowns, but for now, these are what I have.
The first dress is the Jenny Yoo Marguex. The ups: it is silk chiffon with two layers of silk lining and a beautiful sweetheart neckline. The downs: it almost seems a bit too plain and the hemline was cut unevenly. The hemline can’t really be altered because it is just long enough now for flats or maybe one-inch heels.
The second dress is the J Crew Daphne. This gown was hot a few years ago and I recently scored it off of Craigslist. The pros: I think it’s gorgeous and I am in love with the baroque burn-out style of the fabric. The cons: it’s shorter than I am. In flats you would still see the tops of my feet. Can dresses be made longer without looking silly?
The third dress is something I’m contemplating but currently do not own. It’s the J Crew confetti gown. I just think it’s a lot of fun and it’s brand new so I could get it hemmed straight and to the appropriate length. Given the setting however, wearing flats or a one-inch heel is likely what I will wear.
I’ll try to take some actual photos of me in the first two gowns but for a visual reference I’m 5’5″, a size 2 in dresses normally, but small on top (34A) and hippy (38 inch hips).
Please help! Thanks!! 🙂
Post # 3
I like either of the first 2 options, they are gorgeous! As for the Daphne’s hemline, it depends how it was hemmed. If it was folded like a tradition hem, then you may be able to unfold it and gain another inch or so. But if it is hemmed differently (like just edged with a serger) you could be out of luck.
ETA: In the Daphne, I bet you could add a layer of plain white satin to the hem that wouldn’t be very noticeable, and might even look to be part of the dress design? You could try it on the chiffon one too but it may be more difficult with a flowing fabric to make that look natural.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
All of them are beautiful! I honestly can’t decide. But if you can’t get a correct length on the first two than go with 3.
Post # 5
I like the first dress the most; it seems the most summery, and the most casual of the 3 if that’s what you’re going for! It’s beautiful 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks for the feedback so far! Here are some (very amatuarish) photographs. Sorry I had to cut my head off of the photos, just being cautious in case some of my suspicious friends start snooping around! After trying these on again, I think I’m crossing option 3 off my own list. I love these two!
The Jenny Yoo gown. First with no shoes then with one-inch heels (and then the shoes I’d wear, also an ebay score!).
Post # 7
And now the photos of the J Crew Daphne. I tried to show the length on it, the second photo is barefoot and the third is with the heels. My photography-in-the-mirror skills are miserable! It’s about 1 1/2 to 2 inches off the ground with heels and maybe an inch without.
Post # 8
I love the Daphne, but it looks a tiny bit big on you around the waist to me? Maybe that’s just the camera angle though. I don’t think it looks that short, and I agree with the poster who suggested a band of plain satin at the bottom might work. Would it horrify you if I suggested shortening it to knee length?? 🙂
Post # 9
@Irish_in_Oxford: Lol, not horrified but I really want a full length dress. I’ve tried on some shorter gowns and they just weren’t what I was looking for. As for the Daphne being too big, I think it’s just my terrible photography skills!! Thanks for your feedback! 🙂
Post # 10
I really like the first dress on you, but I wish it were longer. I feel like it just needs another inch or two.
Please don’t get upset, but I’ll be honest. Personally, I don’t find the second dress to be very “bridal,” even in a casual setting. I know this can just be personal taste, but to me the first dress is much more “casual bridal.”
Post # 11
@csteen85: Hi! Not upset at all, this is definitely the type of feedback I’m hoping for! I really wish the first dress were just a tad bit longer too…that’s what bothered me enough to get the second gown (only for it to turn out being even shorter!!!). Thanks for the feedback!
Post # 12
Gosh, I actually love love love the Daphne on you! Could you take it to go get slightly taken in around the waist? I find that the Daphne would be perfect for your surprise wedding. But that’s just me… 😀 The other one is beautiful too, but I like how Daphne is a little more unique.
Post # 13
I really like the Daphne, and think it’s more flattering on you than the Jenny Yoo, but the length is a problem. I think you should talk to a tailor about possible options for lengthening it – perhaps adding a plain white band at the bottom, or may a tulle underskirt that intentionally shows. Of course, if lengthening it will eat up the cost difference between that and the Confetti dress, by all means go for the Confetti and keep don’t make yourself crazy over hemlines.
Post # 14
I voted before I saw the pics of you in the dresses, and now I have to change my vote. You look amazing in the Daphne. I liked the style when I saw the stock photo, but from your description thought it would be awkwardly short. Seeing it on you changes everything. You look fresh, effortless, and the proportions are absolutely perfect. I’m not sure you need to, but if it’s loose you could have it fit perfectly to you (doubt that would cost much). It doesn’t look too short in the photos either. I voted for the first dress originally, but now that I see how stunning the Daphne is on you, hands-down, no doubt… I vote for Daphne!
Post # 15
@jjmomma: My thoughts exactly. I need to change my vote too!
Post # 16
Are you having a rehearsal dinner? shorten the second dress, wear it to rehearsal, and wear the first dress for your wedding! I agree that the second dress would be gorgeous shortened and taken in at the waist. But I still feel like the first dress is more bridal.