(Closed) Saying “I do” with own vows?

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think your officiant says what he/she says then says:

 “SportsGal and SportsGuy would like to share their vows” (or something to that affect)

 then you go into:

“I (name), take you (name) to be my (husband/wife), my best friend and my one true love.  I promise to… etc..” Exchange vows.

Then go right into the exchanging of the rings

πŸ™‚ I think that sounds good πŸ™‚

Post # 4
1113 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You start with the legal stuff –

I so and so do solemnly declare that I do not know of any lawful impediment why I, so and so, may not be joined in lawful matrimony to blahblahblah.

Then the declaration of intent, so ours was –

Do you so and so, promise to love blahblahblah, selflessly and unconditionally from this day forward?

Do you promise to honour and respect blahblahblah, to help her fulfill her dreams, achieve her goals, to sustain her through life’s highs and lows, and to always communicate with honesty and openness?

Do you promise to remember that friendship is the core of this union, and that compassion and humility are the qualities that hold it together?

I do.

But you know, our officiant was not at all who or what we wanted, so we ultimately didn’t get to say that part! We had no fricken I do’s in our wedding. I agree with you, they are nice to have.

Then you do we did our personal vows. I found this structure on the bee and I liked and used it.

Fiance, ________________________

You are __________________________________
Thank you for _____________________________
Today I promise ___________________________
I will ____________________________________
I vow to _________________________________
And I promise to __________________________

These were the key points I was given by our officiant for brainstorming what to include in the vows – 

Keywords of my feelings towards my partner
-what he means to me regarding our future, through happy and sad moments, fights, life and death
-it’s about each of us and our relationship
-jot down phrases, words about your feelings and thoughts about the other, the step you are taking by marrying, what you are promising to the other, your hopes for the future together, etc. Whatever comes to your mind . . . just write it down.
-keep some lightness and humour, it’s a joyful day

Then we did another set of vows.

I, so and so, do take you, blahblahblah, to be my lawful wedded wife;

my true friend and love, beside me and apart from me, in laughter and in tears, in conflict and in peace, loving you for who you are, trusting what I don’t yet know, wherever life may lead us.

I promise to love you, comfort you, honour you, and stand by you, for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful only to you.

Then we did the ring exchange.

So there’s a bunch of stuff there… hope that helps.


Post # 5
2268 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Personally we did individual “funny vows” and then the repeat after me standard vows.

In fact these are ours πŸ™‚


If you wanted to do all personally spoken vows I suppose you could be a bit more creative.

Something like, “I don’t promise to never disagree, I do promise to always listen. I don’t promise to always be happy, but I do vow to always find joy in what we’ve built together.”

Or you could state your vows and at the end of each of your little speeches you could ask your Fiance “Do you?” “I do. :)”

Post # 6
54 posts
Worker bee

My best friend is our officiant, so we’re working out exact wording together. I’m not sure how we’re going to do the “I do” part yet, these are the vows I’ve been working on:

“Today, as I join my life with yours, I promise you will never walk alone

May my heart be your shelter
And my arms be your home.
May you feel deeply loved, for indeed you are.
I give to you my heart, 
all I am and all I am to become.
I have no greater gift to give.
Take this ring, and with it my vow of faith, patience, and love,
for the rest of my life.”

Post # 7
1434 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We ended up not saying “I do.” …it was implied πŸ™‚

We did our own vows, then ring exchange and sort of sealed it like this:

For thousands of years,
Lovers have exchanged rings as a token of their vows
Let these rings serve as locks–not binding you together–but as keys, unlocking the secrets of your hearts for each other to know, and thus bringing you closer together forever. Eddie, take Stephanie’s ring and place it on her finger and repeat after me:
I give you this ring as a symbol that I choose you
To be my partner, my best friend, my wife, for this life and the next
Wear it, think of me, and know that I love you
Stephanie, take Eddie’s ring and place it on his finger and repeat after me:
I give you this ring as a symbol that I choose you
To be my partner, my best friend, my husband for this life and the next
Wear it, think of me, and know that I love you

 Then we repeated after our officiant (my bro)
Today I marry my best friend,
Our bond complete, it has no end,
We share one soul, we share one heart,
A perfect time – a perfect start.
With these rings we share together,
Love so close to last forever,
This special day – two special hearts,
Let nothing keep this love apart.

Not quite what you’re looking for, but it’s a good “I do” alternative, I think, since you’re already saying “I take you…”

Post # 8
7941 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

This is what we are saying:

Exchange Wedding Vows: Join hands and repeat after me…

I (T/A) take you (T/A) to be my friend and my one true love.  I will love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust and respect you, laugh and cry with you.  I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to care for and protect you, to comfort and encourage you from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.


Exchange of Rings

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion.

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