(Closed) Saying I love you

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

yes, and I think its important to pick up on this and adress it early on, or else the next thing you know your looking back and realizing neither of you ever say it at all.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  ktsteimel.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Yes and yes.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Haddonfield, NJ

I have a thing about this actually. It has to be the last thing I say to someone I love, because I worry if I never see that person again, and what if my last words to them were “Later, fartface”? Ha. 

My fiance taunts me sometimes and refuses to say it back when I am leaving, because he knows I won’t leave until I hear it. (It gets him a couple extra minutes with me every morning) But I hear it and say it every day, and if I didn’t, I would bring it up. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, we say it multiple times a day so if a day went by where my husband didn’t, it would be very out of character.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

BrynneF:  My Fiance and I say I love you every day, usually either one of us will initiate. When I notice I’m the one initiating most of the time I just stop saying it, which is funny because then he says “how come you didn’t say I love you” it makes me laugh inside because it shows me that he cares. He actually does the same thing to me if I have not said I love you in a while.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We say it a lot. Probably 4 or 5 times a day. I don’t have to hear it constantly, it’s just habit when we’re on the phone or saying bye, but if he started like not saying it before bed like he always does, I would be a little concerned.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yes, and yes. We constantly show affection for one another.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

This made me feel better. We say it everyday ( often a few times a day). I know he means it, I love it! Haha

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My husband and I must be weird cos we decided only to say it sometimes, when we are overwhelmed with love because neither of us wanted it to become something we just said routinely. It works for us and makes it all the more special when we say it to each other. The other thing we don’t do is say I love you back to the person when they’ve said it, again so it isn’t routine and is truly heartfelt (not that saying it routinely isn’t heartfelt, but it just isn’t something we like). 

 

Sounds like it’s worth having a conversation about though, especially if it’s niggling away. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Fiance and I do not say it everyday, but do things to show each other that we do. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

We do not say it every day. Maybe weekly. 

In a past relationship of mine, we did say it every day. But in that case, it was an act of desperation and reassurance, and it really lost its meaning over time. And my ex just lied, because he was cheating on me. haha.

In regards to your question, I wouldn’t feel insecure or worried unless I actually had reason to. In my past relationship with my ex, I was anxious and worried and it was a big deal – and I had reason to be. Because he was drifting away from me. With my FH, we show each other love in a thousand other ways so it doesn’t even cross my mind. If he stopped showing me love, then I would be concerned and definitely speak to him about how he is feeling.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No, so no.  We are not verbally expressive people at all.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Not everyday, to me it gets annoying if I hear it all the time.  A few times a week and im good.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

BrynneF:  We say it eachother daily and yes I’d find it odd if I were the only one saying it. I wouldn’t wait several hours let alone days to find out what the deal was though.

I lost a boyfriend this way, as in he was pulling away and this was his first move. One week after it started he confessed that he had been seeing his ex for a month (we were in a LDR). Lame sauce.

Hope things work out for you bee.

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