(Closed) Saying “I love you” to the In Laws

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

That’s really cute that your Mother-In-Law "dropped the L bomb" on you. 🙂  My ILs usually sign emails to me with "Love, Mom" or "Love, Dad" but the only time I can remember them saying it in person was at the wedding.  I was dancing with my Father-In-Law and he told me he loved me.  I really do love them (and I’m a pretty touchy-feely person), so I said it back.

Now that I think about it, I said "I love you" to my ILs easier than I did to my husband…

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Oh my goodness, I think this would make me so uncomfortable.  My own family is big on saying I love you (I say I love you when hanging up the phone with my parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins).  My fiance’s family never says it…  which is maybe a good thing because I think I would feel totally awkward about it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Haha. Funny story about this…

About a year ago, my fiance and I were leaving my parents’ house and my dad yelled "Love you guys!" without realizing he was saying it to my fiance too. Hehe. I don’t think either of us are ready to say the "I love you"s yet, but maybe it will come in time. 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Awww, Mr. Bee that’s so sweet!  How did you respond at the time?

My ex-bf’s family always told me (still do!) that they love me and I say it back (because I do love them, even though their son and I broke up, they’re still like family to me!).  

I think the only time I’d struggle with it was if I didn’t feel the same way back.  I’ve never said "I love you" to anyone without meaning it, but I would imagine I’d choke on the words (if I could even get them out).

Post # 7
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Helper bee

My Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law (and even Gma’s) say it all the time. My mom and dad tell my Mr. they love him as well. I’ve been saying I love you to his family for years now (we’ve been together nearly 6). My family is very open about that sort of thing. So it’s just a part of who I am. I am very thankful to my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law for bringing my Mr. into this world, they may not be perfect (but really, who is?) but I love them for who they are.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We are very, very, very close now. So it’s dropped every now and than … not on a daily basis or anything like that. His sister says Love You everytime we talk though! Lol.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@mrbee: lol if I remember correctly…. didn’t you start a thread saying how you have skillfully avoided calling your in-laws by any name over the last 5 years? Which is worse: calling her "mom", "mrs mamabee" or saying i love you? hehe

My Future Father-In-Law said it to me when we announced our engagement. I, like mrbee, have avoided calling my Future Father-In-Law anything other than "Hiiiiii…[insert giant awkward hug here]" It was kind of awkward and I ended up saying "Oh I love you guys too!!" lol

lol I’m convinced they think I’m the most uptight person… ever. I’m just not comfortable with PDA’s and hugs from people I barely know!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

lol aww mr.bee that’s cute.. "drop the ‘mom’ on her!"

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

That is really cute.  Future Mother-In-Law will sometimes say "we love you" – sort of an I love you, but sort of not.  Also FI’s grandma will say "we love you."  I wonder who "we" is  : )

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

My family is not big on saying it (but actions show it all the time – lots of hugs, etc) and I would feel a bit funny if Future Mother-In-Law said it. I say it to FH 100 times a day (and so does he), so it feels like something for us, you know? Future Mother-In-Law signs off her emails "Love, Sue" and that’s about as far as I’m ready to go right now. I think we show our love through actions and other words and I’m happy with that – hopefully she is too!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think the first time I said "I love you" to my Future Mother-In-Law was at her father’s burial service. It just kind of came out. I was hugging her, was overcome with emotion, and said it. Fiance and I had only been dating for maybe 7-8 months at the time so I immediately felt weird. But it was just what I was feeling and I don’t regret saying it. Now we say it all the time, but they usually initiate it. I actually think I’ve said "I love you" to his dad more than I’ve said it to my dad in my entire 23 years.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ha. My fiance now says mother to my mom, like "Hi Mother" … jokingly … but he has her stored in his phone as Mother-2 lol

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