(Closed) Saying NO to a vendor after meeting with them/trying their product?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@loveknows: oh yeah. We met with two florists – both very nice, one who was mom to DH’s childhood friend who was invited to the wedding. Nothing really wrong with what she had to offer, we just felt the other lady met what we were looking for better (who was actually more expensive than the other).

I called her and thanked her for her time and ideas and said we did decide to go with someone else but we did appreciate her taking the time to meet with us. It’s not the most fun thing in the world, but just be polite  – I’m sure it happens to them all the time.

Post # 4
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I sometimes feel bad, too, especially with vendors who have been extremely nice and taken the time to answer my emailed questions, provide me with estimates, etc.  But I just remind myself that this is an irrational reaction.  They’re businesspeople – they know the game.  They get some clients and not others.  I think that as long as you thank them sincerely for their time and assistance and tell them that after speaking with your fiance you’ve decided to go with a different vendor, you don’t have to feel bad.

Post # 6
2701 posts
Sugar bee

I found it awkward to “break up” with a vendor too, especially the ones that went above and beyond…. but in the end, you need tto do what’s best for you.

Post # 7
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah, I know how you feel.  I had a dj email me a few days ago saying something along the lines of: “since I haven’t heard from you, I assume that you’ve gone with another dj.  If not, your date is still available.”

I felt bad because I didn’t even meet with this particular dj.  The first dj we met with was perfect and priced reasonably.

Post # 8
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Has something similar except that I didn’t really enjoy the cakes and her prices were more expensive. I didn’t know how to tell her the truth so I lied and said that a family member was doing our cake as our wedding gift…

Yeah, I’m chicken like that…..

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