Post # 1
I normally don’t feel bad for saying ‘no, we will be going with someone else…’ But for some reason the baker we met with and tried her cakes, she was so nice, but it didn’t satisfy our needs, it was a good price, but we were able to book a baker with the same price and a better product. She called twice to verify if we were booking her, so I had to tell her that we will be going with someone else, I felt bad!! LOL. Anyone else?
Post # 3
@loveknows: oh yeah. We met with two florists – both very nice, one who was mom to DH’s childhood friend who was invited to the wedding. Nothing really wrong with what she had to offer, we just felt the other lady met what we were looking for better (who was actually more expensive than the other).
I called her and thanked her for her time and ideas and said we did decide to go with someone else but we did appreciate her taking the time to meet with us. It’s not the most fun thing in the world, but just be polite – I’m sure it happens to them all the time.
Post # 4
I sometimes feel bad, too, especially with vendors who have been extremely nice and taken the time to answer my emailed questions, provide me with estimates, etc. But I just remind myself that this is an irrational reaction. They’re businesspeople – they know the game. They get some clients and not others. I think that as long as you thank them sincerely for their time and assistance and tell them that after speaking with your fiance you’ve decided to go with a different vendor, you don’t have to feel bad.
Post # 5
Totally true!! Thanks Melanie11 🙂
Post # 6
I found it awkward to “break up” with a vendor too, especially the ones that went above and beyond…. but in the end, you need tto do what’s best for you.
Post # 7
Yeah, I know how you feel. I had a dj email me a few days ago saying something along the lines of: “since I haven’t heard from you, I assume that you’ve gone with another dj. If not, your date is still available.”
I felt bad because I didn’t even meet with this particular dj. The first dj we met with was perfect and priced reasonably.
Post # 8
Has something similar except that I didn’t really enjoy the cakes and her prices were more expensive. I didn’t know how to tell her the truth so I lied and said that a family member was doing our cake as our wedding gift…
Yeah, I’m chicken like that…..