- 4 years ago
I’ve heard through mutual friends, that a friend, Courtney, is going to ask me to be a bridesmaid this weekend when we get together as she’s in town from 6 hours away. I consider her a friend, but not that good of a friend. A few texts per week and have only seen her once in the past 3 years, which so happens to be the day before she got engaged 6 months ago. She couldn’t get ahold of any of her family members, so I was the first person she told when she got engaged!
My issue is this: She’s not getting married for another 15 months yet, and I know at least two other very close friends that are on the verge of getting engaed, which could potentially mean, having the large time, engery, and financial commitment overlapping with Courtney’s pending nuptials. On top of all of this, my boyfriend and I have a very specific time frame of when we’ll be engaged in a few months and a wedding mid-year in 2015. As well as having a financial priority together of saving money to buy a house afterwards.
I feel as though my heart will be else where as well as my emotional support to Courtney as a bride and my wallet will be very tight. Thinking of all the showers, gifts, bachelorette parties, dress shopping, and purchasing, travel time, hotels, wedding presents, time off of work, etc I will have to commit to her wedding seriously overwhelms me.
I know I need to tell her no; however, I feel as though none of the reasonings I have to offer her currently are concrete, set in stone things to point out on why I’m declining. I know she will need reasons and will definitely be upset/hold a grudge.