(Closed) Saying no to the dress

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Bio_Chemist:  Chinese online dressmakers 🙂 A 10th of the price of dresses you will find in the store. My dress cost $150 and it is gorgeous!

Post # 3
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

There are other alternatives out there. Online dress makers, used dresses, last season’s dresses, thrift stores…all will save you some money. My friend fell in love with a dress and was able to purchase it used on ebay for a fraction of the cost. 

I understand that you feel “outraged by the wedding industry wanting to drive you to the poor house”, but it makes me sad that you compare your wedding dress to a feminine hygenie product. Maybe it wont be the best day of your life, but it will most likely be the most important/iconic garment that you will have the opportunity to wear. 

Post # 4
1164 posts
Bumble bee

Discount/factory outlet stores that sell stock designers get rid of to make room for tge new season stuff

Post # 6
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Bio_Chemist:  Be careful if you choose to use onine Chinese replica dressmakers.

Firstly, their designs are stolen.  Most often they even steal and use the original designer’s pictures.

Despite some reviews you will read, many of the dresses are actually quite poor quality both in material and workmanship. The challange with Bees asking for opinions is that if they already have the dress in hand, no one wants to tell them their dress looks like crap.

There are other options. You can buy a dress from one of many re-sale sites, or AdHuntr. Or, you can buy a dress/evening gown that is not designated a “wedding dress.” There are bridesmaids’ dresses that make wonderful wedding dresses.

Post # 8
8823 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


Bio_Chemist:  is prom season over?  i’m sure there are plenty of dresses on the sale rack now.


Post # 9
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I also have minor panic attacks (not really, but you know) when I see the cost of wedding dresses.  That said, there are lots of options, especially if you’re willing to go a used route.

A wedding dress is not like a tampon.  One can be sold and used again.  If you tried to sell and use the other one again, you’ll probably get in trouble for mishandling of a biohazard.

Post # 10
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Bio_Chemist:  I think it depends on the type of dress that you are looking for. If it is hand detailed, hand beaded, etc. with expensive fabrics, then I can understand paying a higher price for it. For the big names I think that you are paying some for the designer name as well. 

I think if you don’t want to pay a whole lot of money (and that is relative, everyone’s idea of ‘expensive’ is different), consider shopping around, looking at dresses that may not be labeled as ‘bridal gown’, consider buying a previously owned/worn dress. Otherwise, buying a sample off the rack can save you some money too. I lucked out and the dress that I loved at David’s Bridal was marked down to $99 because they were discontinuing the style, and the sample they had in the store was my size.  

Post # 11
151 posts
Blushing bee

Bio_Chemist:  What size do you wear. I have a very pretty off white dress that I got at Macy’s when I thought I was going to elope. If it will fit you can have it. I know how much weddings cost. Still has tags and everything. 


Post # 12
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wedding dress = tampon! I love it!

OP, I feel the same way you do so have been shopping online at Nordstroms, Macys, Neiman, etc for a gown in the $100-$400 range.

there are a LOT of beautiful choices! But I’m super picky so I’m still having a hard time.

Total refund policy is my credit card’s best friend right now.

let me know if you want me to share some finds.

Post # 13
1651 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

OP it sounds like clothing has not been a focus of your time, energy, and money for most of your life. And that’s okay.  Have you thought about just wearing a pretty dress that you like as your wedding dress? You don’t have to shop at a wedding store to have a dress. Wedding dresses use up a lot of fabric so just on a materials basis they cost more, then you add customization, alterations, and time adds up. If wedding planning is stressing you out, just go with a dress – doesn’t even have to be white! Modcloth has super cute dresses. Keira Knightley got married in a normal dress she owned. Good luck!

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