(Closed) Scammed by our officiant. . .?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
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    Girl, he got you good! : (28 votes)
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    Nah, you're crazy! Officiants gotta eat too! : (16 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We paid $214.70 at the time of booking and another $170 at our planning meeting for the officiant.  He will not however, be staying for dinner.

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @katsupgirl: I don’t know what you do about it, but I’d be pissed too. Your Darling Husband obviously should have followed up on that email – but that seems extremely unprofessional to not mention a fee until the day before the wedding.

    I should add that we used the priest at DH’s church and he did not officially charge anything, but we did make a donation to the church.
     

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Wow not gonna lie, you got duped hardcore. Honestly, that was one hell of a douche move. I would be LIVID. And I would have had anyone but that dude officiate. Ugh, the nerve of some people!

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If I may play devil’s advocate though, I don’t think it was right to assume that the service would be provided for FREE, either.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Our officiant was $300 and DID NOT EVEN SHOW UP.  Yeah.  He sent his Dad?  And I we did not find out until we showed up at the wedding.  Yeah.  The whole thing was odd, and then the Dad married us and then did not sign the certificate.  I don’t really want to say anything because I do not want to risk some trouble with the license.  It was really rotten.  He was in Vegas.  And, I am just hoping his Dad was legally able to perform the ceremony… ?  Weird!

    So, your officiant sounds a little odd, but I think $200 is reasonable, and actually a deal (?)  It sounds like someone should have asked about the fee upfront/ discussed it.  That is rude however that they did not give a gift if they are friends, and it is rude he was late (but it happens) and that is too bad about your name.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @cbee:  Holy crap, THAT sucks.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    what does Darling Husband stand for? and i wouldve been upset too!

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Well… he did mention the fee before, and you assumed he wouldn’t charge you. So you admit, you kind of let that one slide. He asked if he could bring his child, you said no. So he probably figured “Ok, since we’re not doing favors….”

    It’s a little odd yes, but not really a scam. He mentioned a fee, then he collected.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think you got scammed. Not saying that your officiant didn’t deserve to be offered some competency for his services. But if this was never discussed before hand and then “out of the blue” sends a “bill” I would be peeved. I would have tipped him, but that would have been based on the amount you and your husband wanted to pay him.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m going to have to pay an officiant donation to my parent’s pastor and then pay for their dinners as well because they are close enough of a relationship (mom is president at the church) that they will come.  Sadly that’s apparently par for the course.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    @katsupgirl: Just out of curiosity, but did you not feed your photographers? Because we paid them for their service and provided meals for them. It just didn’t phase me that some vendors needed to be paid and fed. 

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