(Closed) scared??

posted 7 years ago in Christian
  • poll: scared about first time sex?
    yes : (17 votes)
    38 %
    no : (28 votes)
    62 %
  • Post # 3
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If you are, it might help to talk through it with your Fiance. Communication is crazy important with sex, and since you will be new at it, it’s really important to tell each other what is and isn’t good/comfortable. And that starts before anything happens :-).

    Post # 5
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    it’s been years since my first time but i dont remember it being painful or anything. so scared..no…nervous. oh yes. but thats only natural.

    I think its absolutely wonderful you and your Fiance are waiting until the wedding day (i read one of your other posts) and i wouldnt worry too much – just have fun.

    Post # 6
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Awww, that is so sweet.  Waiting until the wedding night.  Don’t be scared, it’s going to beautiful.  Might be a little painful but beautiful nonetheless.  Girl, within a few months, you’ll be a pro. LOL Congrats.

    Post # 8
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @icklesaddles: I remember being terrified. You’re not going to be able to relax. Having sex is not like it is on the tv. It’s really awkward figuring out where things go and how to get them in there and what not. Remember spit works if you can’t get wet enough to get it in (I know that might be Too Much Information, but even if you think you’re super wet you may not be) God made us to fit together and unless he has some gigantic giant horse penis, you won’t be too tight to get it in there. It might be uncomfortable the first time to be honest (or even the first few) it was for me.

    Post # 9
    4582 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Worrying about it will only make it worse. I’m not going to lie, it may not be the most comfortable thing in the world the first time, but it gets better, FAST. 🙂 Just relax and enjoy each other, have tons of foreplay before you progess to intercourse and maybe have some lube handy, just in case.

    Post # 10
    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I was most scared not knowing what to expect! =) Hurt a little, to be expected but after that it was “ON LIKE DONKEY KONG!” hehe!

    Best of Luck!

    Post # 14
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i dont remember bleeding at all – deep breaths and just relax – lots of foreplay will help you relax and loosen up 🙂

    Post # 15
    1602 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I always was, but I had a really intense conversation with my cousin who just got married on Saturday, and she says that you really just have to remember that it’s a beautiful thing. It may hurt, but so does falling down and scraping your knee – I think the scariest part is knowing that it’s happening. Everything else happens without being aware.

    For us I know that we are just ready. I’m excited beyond belief, and while it may hurt a little the emotional bond will be so powerful that I think a little bit of pain will be worth it.

    Post # 16
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Looking back I see that this is your third post regarding this in the past month so you are clearly quite worried! I can tell you confidently that you have NOTHING to worry about. Really! You may bleed a little but it isn’t like getting your period. If you do at all it will be just a tiny bit that won’t hurt the sheets. Regarding pain… just go slow. I don’t know anyone who said it hurt a LOT. If it hurt at all it was just a little bit or more uncomfortable than anything. But that really doesn’t even happen for anyone– I think probably the biggest reason it hurts somewhat is because your’e all tense and scared. I definitely think you should talk all this through with your future husband. Both so he knows how you feel and can be sensitive to that, and also so that you can start getting excited about this TOGETHER. Sex is a good thing! I think sometimes people who wait spend so many years thinking sex is BAD because they can’t/won’t do it before marriage but any minister will tell you that sex after marriage is a good thing that you don’t have to feel guilty, uncomfortable, or embarrassed about. 

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