(Closed) Scared and need help!

posted 8 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do you know where the reception is taking place?  At a family’s house, banquet hall, etc…?  If you’re having it outdoors, perhaps you can ask people to bring food and have a potluck or bbq buffet reception.  My brother had his reception at a park and everyone invited helped to cook food, we had a few kegs, and it was a great casual reception.  And they didn’t have to pay for much since the family contributed.

Post # 4
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@star_shine:

My fiance and I are doing several things to cut cost.  For one, we are having only a few flowers, probably at the altar and maybe on the reception table.  We are doing our own invitations.  Total cost is around $40.  We are using colored cardstock (4 1/2 x 6) and we got the card packs when they were 1/2 off at hobby lobby.  We are using his printer and saving money on ink by taking the cartridges to a refill place instead of getting brand new cartridges.  We bought stamps, also at 1/2 off, to add a whimsical feel, and we are going to add stickers to them, that way we get that whole DIY handmade feel.  We are doing Bible bouquets with a few real flowers instead of big bouquets which are very expensive.  Boutaineers are going to be made of rosemary.  No tuxes.  He’s wearing a dress shirt with a vest and tie tie that we got at a closeout outlet store.  The guys are just doing dress shirts and ties.  My girls are wearing sundresses.  I’m wearing an etsy-made dress.  Our cake and cupcakes are made by a friend for $75.  this is for 300 people!  You can also make your own.  There are great DIY kits.  You can enlist the help of your bridal party and make it a fun day.  We are also having a potluck reception, like Future Mrs. Huban’s brother.  We are considering dishes the guests bring as their gift and the church ladies are going to also help out with making food.  We are just making it a much more casual feel so that we can save money. 

 

What is it that you still have to take care of that you don’t have money for?  That might help people with giving more suggestions.

 

Post # 6
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If most of your guest are out of town then do a big bbq. Buy everything at the grocery store or your local wholesaler and this will save $$. You can buy salads pre-made and veggie & fruit trays. Buys some burgers, chiken & buns. Borrow lawn chairs if you can. Make it casual & fun. If you are outside you don’t need to do much for decoration. And I’m sure people would be willing to help set up & clean up, bring some food if you asked.

Post # 7
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

For the reception you could string together lights from one end to the other, that way as the night falls you can have lighting.  I know there is a blog somewhere where they DIY-ed their entire backyard wedding and it’s amazing.  I’ll find it and post it on here.

I know it’s overwhelming, but just tackle one thing at a time and take a deep breath!

Post # 8
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562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Depending on the time of the wedding/reception, you could just have a cake and punch reception. If it is right around meal time, you can just have light sandwiches. That would be much cheaper/easier to do yourself than a big meal.

Post # 9
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Okay, so the blog is:

http://www.younghouselove.com/

And their wedding was so beautiful and TOTALLY DIY and it’s a backyard wedding.  You have to find the wedding on the site, but I think it’s one of their headings or something…

Post # 10
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Is there is a local restaurant near your brother’s house that could cater food for a low cost?  Maybe a good bbq or italian restaurant.  Then you could have a buffet dinner. 

If you have the reception at your brother’s house, I would utilize all the space that is available (inside, deck and yard).  You could put the food inside or on the deck, rent a few tables and chairs to have down on the lawn for relaxing/eating. 

You could order flowers at wholesale and put a few stems in cheap vases, used wine bottles or mason jars and put them at the ceremony site, inside your brother’s home, on the deck and the tables down on the lawn.  Check these websites out for cheap flowers:  http://www.bunchesdirect.com/index.php or http://www.costco.com/

For discount invitations, programs, etc I would either DIY or check out http://www.vistaprints.com or http://www.123print.com.

As far as his tux goes, I would skip renting a tux and have him where a dress shirt, slacks and a tie if he has all those.  And maybe a friend can do your hair?

Post # 11
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

DIY everything that you can and ask for help from your friends, family, and bridal party.  Perhaps someone would volunteer to bring steaks, and another person could volunteer to bring burgers.  Someone might bring salads.  They could consider this part or all of their gift.  Another idea is to register early for a cash registry.  People can donate to your registry, and you could use that money towards your wedding.  Weddings were once a communal affair and have now become about the bride and groom entertaining their guests.  I think if everyone who can contributes, it can be a wonderful time of fellowship and fun.

Post # 16
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Future Mrs. Huban:

@star_shine:Okey have you thought about incorprating the flowers that at the house and making food that can be made ahead of time so that you aren’t rushing the day of, also if you have family and friends that could let you barrow their tables and chairs then you could hit up the discout stores for table clothes and napkins ect. you can also find lights at these places and string them up( I found christmas light at Goodwill for $1 for 5 sets) I am having a outdoor wedding and I am utilizing my mother in laws house! ( for flowers) also My wedding is DIY everying is being made by hand!!! But I agree, tackle one project at a time and it will flow together!! 🙂 I hope this helps!

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