- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I’m pretty terrified about the pain of delivery when I think about it, but I feel like that’s pretty normal. I know I don’t want an epi unless there is a really good reason for it — like being exhausted after 24+ hours of laboring. So I’m trying to mentally prepare for the pain, and also I’m planning on surrounding myself with some excellent coaches to help me through the process — DH and a doula. The part that I’m most scared for actually is being stitched up afterwards. Do doctor’s always give you a local before the stitches? …and how quickly does the local wear off afterwards? I can’t imaging getting stitched up without being numbed up first!
My sister had an epi with all 4 of her boys. The only complications she had with 1 of them was that it only took on 1 side but by the time they went to fix it she was completely dialiated. With her 1st delivery she tore real bad and had to have stitches. She was ever so greatful for having the epi and not having to feel that pain. I want to have 1 as I do not tolerate pain what so ever but DH is pushing not to have 1. He’s not the 1 dealing with the pain! lol He’s just afraid of the side effects it has on the baby. I guess we’ll decide when the time comes. Good luck!
I was scared of both but I gotta say – the epi might not be for everyone but it saved me! It allowed me to be focused and present. I had back labor because my son was sunny side up and stuck under my pubic bone. The OB was thinking I’d need a csection but I was determined to push him out. I had a crazy huge episiotomy with more stitches than they could count. I never felt them give me the epidural. I couldn’t feel any pain but I could feel the push and the pressure.
This will be my first, but I am so close now that I honestly am not scared about any of it anymore – I am just ready for her to be here and be out of me! Women have been doing this for thousands of years. Why can’t I do it?? That’s the way I look at it. Granted, my petite little baby is only 4% for size, which will make delivery a lot easier.
When I had my son (first and only so far) I did it all natural, no drugs, vaginal birth in 2.5 hours. The only reason it was that long is because the nurse didn’t want to deliver, I had to wait on the doctor. Everyones body is different. You will know if you “need” one or not. Personally I believe that epis are a cop-out. They are not needed. Your body naturally deals with pain and let me tell you, labor is not as painful as a lot of people make it seem. You will do just fine. Good luck doll!
I’ve said this before and people think I’m crazy! I’m not having a hospital birth but I’ve always said the epidural sounds super scary to me. They stick a needle in your spine then you can’t feel anything, walk around, pee on your own. It sounds like an absolute nightmare to me! Personally, the idea of an epidural sounds scarier to me than labor pains.
I’d also be way too scared to get the epi then have it wear off and be surprised by bunch of really strong contractions that I didn’t get to work up to. And from what I’ve heard other pain medications tend to ease the beginning and end of each contraction but don’t help with the most painful part in the middle.
Good luck with whatever you choose, but it sounds to me like you’re pretty confident you could go without the epi…
OP: I am scared of the epidural, but I’m much more scared of giving birth without one!
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