Post # 1
So let me start of with saying I wanted a small, intimate wedding. But no my fiancé and my Future Mother-In-Law wanted a big, nice wedding and they got their way. The wedding is going to be probably around $13K (how much was yours?) and now that I’m excited to have a nice wedding since we already spending this much I’m afride no one is going to come. There will be about 100-120 people we invite and probably 30-40ish is family. I don’t have very many friends to invite (I only have 2 bridesmaid) and he has a few to invites. I just feel like it is all going to be family and family friends. But why spend so much to impress family? With a 13K wedding I want people there, I want it to be fun but I feel like people are just not going to show up and I dont know why I feel that way because we haven’t even sent out inventations yet lol. I just feel like I’m going to be disappointed and sad we spent so much when we can do so much more with that money.
I’m just worried of a small but expensive wedding. Did most of your guest you invited show up?
Post # 2
We invited around 120 and it’s looking like 70-80 are going to show. I’m actually thrilled to have 70-80, I’ll be able to actually spend some time with guests and not feel pulled in every direction. Enjoy the moment and share it with those who choose to attend – it’ll be fine!
Post # 3
That’s not a small wedding. Also if you aren’t spending the money for yourself but instead to impress people, you might want to rethink the plans in general.
I invited just under 70 to my wedding and 34 attended, mostly family. It was small, it was great. You’re thinking too hard.
Post # 4
I think it’s common to worry that no one is going to come to your wedding, but you can’t let it bother you or stress you out. Your wedding isn’t about how many people show up, it’s about marrying the person you love and celebrating with those closest to you who are able to join. As a PP said, you’re thinking too hard. Try not to take these kinds of things personally.
Post # 5
flower2019 : I agree with PP, that is deifinitely not small! Do not worry. I’ve been told by a coupel venues that on average, 20% of the people you invite do not attend (they rsvp no, not rsvp yes and not show).
I definietly would not worry about people not coming. If it is mainly family and family friends, they will definitely all want to be there for you! As well, I would not be overly concerned about your price tag. I wish I could fit my wedding of a similar size (slightly larger) into that budget! My wedding is about 150 invites and according to my budget will cost around $35,000~!
Don’t worry Bee, people will show up and show you lots of love!
Post # 6
100-120 people is not a small wedding, it sounds like a big wedding to me. You can’t have expectations of who might or not show up and “will it be worth it?” As far as who will show up, you never know who will NOT drive across town to your wedding and who will hop a plane and fly across country.
Post # 7
I can definitely empathize with some of your feelings. I too wanted a small ceremony followed by a dinner with immediate family and close friends but now have a decent sized wedding (100 RSVP yes). My family moved to the opposite coast when I was a teen so I only have 13 family members attending and lack the longterm and childhood best friends my Fiance has. However, even if the guests are majority “his” they are still people that are want to be there to see our love celebrated so I think it will be nice! (wedding is at a country club. 16k if you don’t include rings/honeymoon)
Post # 8
flower2019 : well 100-120 people is considered an “average” sized wedding in the US, not small. (I don’t know where you live?). also, the average cost of an average wedding in the US is around $33,000. So, while i’m in no way implying that $13K is a small chunk of change, you’re not exactly throwing an expensive wedding. Your wedding is very much considered on the inexpensive/budget side of things. Don’t know if that helps or not.
Post # 9
I agree that you’re overthinking it, as the other bee’s noted it’s normal for about 20% of your invites to be “No’s”, and it’s nothing personal.
Where is this $13K coming from? I would honestly be shocked if you could host a wedding of that size for only $13K. Has everything been booked, have you gotten quotes, or is this a number that you’ve come up with on your own?
I’m having a courthouse wedding, then hosting a reception at a bar with heavy apps and drinks. We’re inviting 75 people, not sure if all will come but we’re budgeting as if they will. Our food/bev quote was $7K, plus rental fee of $1k, plus $1k for a wedding photographer (for only 2 hours), it all adds up very fast.