Scared of having a small wedding

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
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  • Post # 2
    936 posts
    Busy bee

    We invited around 120 and it’s looking like 70-80 are going to show. I’m actually thrilled to have 70-80, I’ll be able to actually spend some time with guests and not feel pulled in every direction. Enjoy the moment and share it with those who choose to attend – it’ll be fine!

    Post # 3
    6671 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    That’s not a small wedding. Also if you aren’t spending the money for yourself but instead to impress people, you might want to rethink the plans in general. 

    I invited just under 70 to my wedding and 34 attended, mostly family. It was small, it was great. You’re thinking too hard. 

    Post # 4
    661 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I think it’s common to worry that no one is going to come to your wedding, but you can’t let it bother you or stress you out. Your wedding isn’t about how many people show up, it’s about marrying the person you love and celebrating with those closest to you who are able to join. As a PP said, you’re thinking too hard. Try not to take these kinds of things personally.

    Post # 5
    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    flower2019 :  I agree with PP, that is deifinitely not small! Do not worry. I’ve been told by a coupel venues that on average, 20% of the people you invite do not attend (they rsvp no, not rsvp yes and not show).

    I definietly would not worry about people not coming. If it is mainly family and family friends, they will definitely all want to be there for you! As well, I would not be overly concerned about your price tag. I wish I could fit my wedding of a similar size (slightly larger) into that budget! My wedding is about 150 invites and according to my budget will cost around $35,000~!

    Don’t worry Bee, people will show up and show you lots of love!

    Post # 6
    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    100-120 people is not a small wedding, it sounds like a big wedding to me.  You can’t have expectations of who might or not show up and “will it be worth it?”   As far as who will show up, you never know who will NOT drive across town to your wedding and who will hop a plane and fly across country.

    Post # 7
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I can definitely empathize with some of your feelings. I too wanted a small ceremony followed by a dinner with immediate family and close friends but now have a decent sized wedding (100 RSVP yes). My family moved to the opposite coast when I was a teen so I only have 13 family members attending and lack the longterm and childhood best friends my Fiance has. However, even if the guests are majority “his” they are still people that are want to be there to see our love celebrated so I think it will be nice! (wedding is at a country club. 16k if you don’t include rings/honeymoon)

    Post # 8
    3513 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    flower2019 :  well 100-120 people is considered an “average” sized wedding in the US, not small. (I don’t know where you live?). also, the average cost of an average wedding in the US is around $33,000. So, while i’m in no way implying that $13K is a small chunk of change, you’re not exactly throwing an expensive wedding. Your wedding is very much considered on the inexpensive/budget side of things. Don’t know if that helps or not.

    Post # 9
    2886 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    flower2019 :  

    I agree that you’re overthinking it, as the other bee’s noted it’s normal for about 20% of your invites to be “No’s”, and it’s nothing personal. 

    Where is this $13K coming from? I would honestly be shocked if you could host a wedding of that size for only $13K. Has everything been booked, have you gotten quotes, or is this a number that you’ve come up with on your own?

    I’m having a courthouse wedding, then hosting a reception at a bar with heavy apps and drinks. We’re inviting 75 people, not sure if all will come but we’re budgeting as if they will. Our food/bev quote was $7K, plus rental fee of $1k, plus $1k for a wedding photographer (for only 2 hours), it all adds up very fast. 

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