(Closed) Scared of recurring PPD – this is long

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
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Bee Keeper

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ChocolateLime:  I think you and your husband need  have a conversation with your mental healh care provider about this, what your options are.

Chances are good that you will have PPD again. The thing is, you can be proactive against it this time. It won’t take you 4 months to figure out what is going on! I’m so sorry you struggled with PPD. That must have been so scary. 

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Busy bee
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ChocolateLime:  I could have written this myself, seriously. Every single word- including the forceps delivery but in my case it was a vacuum but same idea. Bonding was hard even though I wanted her and was so excited prior to delivery. She’s 19 months now and I love her to pieces. She is the best thing that ever happened to me but it was HARD. The difference in our stories though is that this time last year I found out I was pregnant again. I was not thrilled, my husband was over the moon. My son was born 8/31 and those same feelings came back but I was proactive this time and here I am with a 19 month old and a 3 month old and I’m a confident and happy momma. I asked for help, I identified my feelings and this time went way better. Good luck!

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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ChocolateLime:  I’m so sorry you had such a rough time in the post partum period. It’s quite common, though you seem to have a particularly rough time. And, unfortunately, you are correct that you will probably be at an increased risk for PPD in the next pregnancy, but the most important thing is that, now, you’re on the lookout. You know the signs to look for. Your hubby knows the signs to look for. And, most importantly, you know how to deal with it and know that it doesn’t last forever! If you have started proactively dealing with PPD at (or before) delivery, you last post partum period wouldn’t have been as bad. So I really think that, even if you get PPD in teh future, it won’t be nearly as bad as last time. If you’re comfortable, tell friends and family so that they can be supportive. Don’t hide it. You’ve got nothing to be embarassed about – this is a medical condition. You just need to seek help for it, like any other medical condition. 

That was kind of jumbled and I don’t know if it made sense, but overall I think that you will be much better prepared your second time around and it will be easier. Lean on your husband and your friends and your medical providers and don’t feel ashamed or like you  have to hide PPD. If you truly want another child, there’s nothing to do but take the plunge and be prepared to seek help if you need it.

ETA: Now that I think about it, there is one other possibility. If you really don’t want to run the risk of PPD again, you could consider adopting. Just a possibility.

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Bee Keeper
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ChocolateLime:  ((((BIG hugs))))  I think the fact that you now know what to expect and what signs to look for, you’ll be able to catch PPD sooner, if it happens, and get treatment & help from the start instead of waiting.  You have a supportive partner, great local resources at your disposal, and of course all the April ’13 mamas have your back!  

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

With my first daughter I had pretty serious PPD- suicidal thoughts, making plans etc. I finally got on medication but my PPD affected bonding with my daughter. However with my second daughter I was perfectly fine. So you may have a reoccurance, or you may not have it at all! Good luck!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I formed the belief I would be at a higher risk than others for having Post natal depression so I spoke to my OB about it and she referred me to a psychiatrist to see before the birth. It was really just an introduction and she took a history. The good thing was I had someone I could call straight away if things turned bad afte the birh. Part of the problem in getting in top of depression is the difficulty lots of people have in making that step to getting help. It can be overwhelming. Who do I call? Will it help? What’s the point? I also made a point to tell my husband and my parents that I felt like I would be predisposed to PND. I wanted it to be out on the table so that they could recognise when/if things started to get difficult and possibly take steps to help me. So far (2weeks PP) so good but I’m definitely on high alert 😉 

 

I would encourage you, OP to make contact with a mental health professional in pregnancy so that you have a relationship established prior to birth. It could really help. best of luck <3 

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