(Closed) Scared to have sex…..

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
3009 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

newbie1123 :  Sex during all stages of pregnancy is perfectly safe unless you are on pelvic rest for complications (such as placenta previa). If your doctor said it was ok, it is ok! Maybe this will make you feel better: sex during pregnancy can help reduce your risk of developing pre-eclampsia, so it isn’t just not hamrful but actually good for you and the embryo.  Here is a link to the article


If you are really too scared you could always wait until 13 weeks.

ETA: Miscarriages are NOT caused by anything the expectant mom does or doesn’t do. They are caused by genetic abnormalities or problems with the placenta. Now obviously don’t go snort a bunch of cocaine, down a bottle of vodka and go deep-sea scuba diving….but seriously, embroys and fetuses are incredibly tough and a little sexytime will not hurt anything.

Post # 3
4232 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I am 16 weeks pregnant. My aversion to sex was caused in part by hormones not feeling it and some pelvic discomfort…but I had some worries too. We just celebrated our one year wedding anniversary, so I really wanted to push past my reservations. It was a little uncomfortable at first, but it worked out ok. While I don’t see myself having a lot of sex this pregnancy, now that I have I can see a lot of my worries were unfounded.

Trust me Bee, it’s nothing to worry about 🙂

Post # 4
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve had two children and sex is fine! If anything make the most of it because you will not be having sex for a while once you near term. 

Post # 5
119 posts
Blushing bee

I was nervous to have sex too and waited until my first US. There have been plenty of studies that all show there is no difference in live births whether you participate in sex or not. Some doctors will say skip sex if you are bleeding only because of the emotional issue of feeling like you caused it. Otherwise, have fun. We were both nervous the first time and it wasn’t the smoothest and I was uncomfortable, but once we got past that first time it was great and back to normal! Good luck!

Post # 6
2967 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i have been nervous about sex too, even tho i know it’s not harmful. i’m 8 weeks along and i’ve had some brown spotting off and on, so that sort of kills the mood for me a little bit. and the one time we had sex so far, i had some spotting right after and i was stressing out the rest of the day (but i had a miscarriage with my last one, so i’m always worried anyway). i think i’ll feel better about it once i have my first ultrasound.

Post # 7
409 posts
Helper bee

I am currently 10 weeks pregnant and my husband and I have agreed to not have sex in the first trimester. We did once, and I spotted afterwards. Scared us both. My doctor also suggested ‘off the record’ that we don’t have sex in the first triemester and allow pelvic rest.

Our last pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 10w5d. The day before our MC we had sex. My husband was convinced it was because of sex. Many doctors said that sex cannot cause mc, but it always sat in the back of his mind. 

We are not sure what caused our loss, but we don’t want to take any chances this time around. 


Post # 8
96 posts
Worker bee

I’ll admit this is extreme, but I’m 19 weeks and haven’t had sex at all during my pregnancy. If I was younger and lower risk I’m sure I would but if anything happened (including spotting or cramping) I would blame myself. I think it’s safe for most women though. 

Post # 9
3114 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Do it while it’s still enjoyable and you still have the time! I’m in the 3rd trimester and sex is just uncomfortable and not enjoyable for me anymore, and once baby arrives things will surely be changed. We maintained a normal sex life throughout the pregnancy and never had issues, other than some cramping after orgasm in the first trimester which is totally normal.

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