I have been freaking out about this for months. I have tattoos and my parents do not know. I tried to find a dress that covered them but to no avail. I have had two sessions with a makeup artist and that dint really cover them either. SO alas it look like my tattoos on my chest will be making an appearence on my wedding day.
I am scared to death to tell my father, so afriad that he will disown me and not come to the wedding at all. My younger sisters insist that won’t happen but i am just not so sure. I am seriously stressing out about this. I have gotten up the courage twice now to tell him but both times his phone went tto voicemail (we live states apart).
i’m sorry this is stressing you. but you had to know that when you got the tattoos, there was the possibility that one day your parents would find out. keep look at different dresses but ultimately, you’re an adult and made this choice so stand by it. it’s hard to own up to something you know your parents will disapprove of but your a grown person living your own life and they’ll come to terms with it.
I believe that the best way is to tell them before the wedding, if you feel that he is that against tattoes that he will disown you, i think it may create a scene during the wedding if they find out on that day.
@braz: Ditto. // I think that you should tell them before the wedding date also. And, I think that since it is your wedding, they might just suck-it up and deal with it. // I have a small tattoo on my chest that I’m trying to cover with my dress/shrug. My parents know of it but my grandparents/aunts don’t. All this wedding planning made me realize that I should just own my tattoo. It is my wedding.
You are an adult, you get to choose what goes on your body. Your parents might not like it, but if they would not come to your wedding because you have a tattoo, there is something wrong with them.
If you’re old enough to get a tattoo, you’re too old to be crying with fear about telling your parents about it.
If it’s too much to call them on the phone, can you tell them in an email, so they’re not surprised at the wedding itself? Don’t make a big deal of it – just say, “Hey mom and dad, I just wanted to let you know that I have a couple of tattoos. I got them a few years ago, and they’ll be visible at the wedding, so I didn’t want them to come as a shock to you!”
We have tried all kinds of different makeup and nothing lasts all day or is totally covering so I really do have to tell him. My sisters think everything will be fine but I am not so sure. I truly am afraid he will never speak to me again
If your parents can’t look past a tattoo or two and see their daughter, then that is really sad. I hope that they love you unconditionally as a parent should.
You are your own person, an adult who can make her own decisions.
I don’t think I would tell my parents before teh wedding, I would not make a big deal of it and would let them be responsible for any drama. If they do end up not talking to you, then that’s a character flaw with them and tattoos should not prevent them from having a relationship with you.
I would tell them too, they might be more shocked if they have to find out on the wedding day. I have two tattoos that I got after my parents moved out of state. I never made a point to mention it because I knew they wouldn’t approve. They have seen them since, and although I got a disapproving look from my dad, they dealt ok. They are your parents and they love you, I would be utterly shocked if your tattoos made them want to miss your wedding.
If you still want to cover them you can try MAC, this one is their heaviest concealed:
@mainejen: not sure if this is any consolation to you, but my father told me years and years ago that he would disown me if I ever got a real tattoo. I have two, and he knows about both. he doesn’t understand why I wanted them, but he realizes that it’s my body and I can do what I want with it.
I got them with my mother, without telling him. He only found out about them after the fact.