(Closed) scared to tell parents a secret (and they wont come to the wedding)

posted 6 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
717 posts
Busy bee

i’m sorry this is stressing you.  but you had to know that when you got the tattoos, there was the possibility that one day your parents would find out.  keep look at different dresses but ultimately, you’re an adult and made this choice so stand by it.  it’s hard to own up to something you know your parents will disapprove of but your a grown person living your own life and they’ll come to terms with it.

Post # 4
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Do you already have your dress? Could you find a style that covers the tattoos? 


ETA: Just saw your wedding date, I sure hope you have your dress already! 

Post # 5
131 posts
Blushing bee

I believe that the best way is to tell them before the wedding, if you feel that he is that against tattoes that he will disown you, i think it may create a scene during the wedding if they find out on that day.

Post # 6
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@braz:  Ditto.  //  I think that you should tell them before the wedding date also.  And, I think that since it is your wedding, they might just suck-it up and deal with it. //  I have a small tattoo on my chest that I’m trying to cover with my dress/shrug.  My parents know of it but my grandparents/aunts don’t.  All this wedding planning made me realize that I should just own my tattoo.  It is my wedding.   Smile

Post # 8
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I think they may be disappointed, but you are their daughter and they love you. It would be too harsh for them not to come to your wedding.

Post # 9
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You are an adult, you get to choose what goes on your body. Your parents might not like it, but if they would not come to your wedding because you have a tattoo, there is something wrong with them.

If you’re old enough to get a tattoo, you’re too old to be crying with fear about telling your parents about it.

If it’s too much to call them on the phone, can you tell them in an email, so they’re not surprised at the wedding itself?  Don’t make a big deal of it – just say, “Hey mom and dad, I just wanted to let you know that I have a couple of tattoos. I got them a few years ago, and they’ll be visible at the wedding, so I didn’t want them to come as a shock to you!”

Post # 10
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it should take a heck of a lot more than hidden tattoos to make family not want to come to a wedding.

Post # 12
878 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If your parents can’t look past a tattoo or two and see their daughter, then that is really sad. I hope that they love you unconditionally as a parent should.

You are your own person, an adult who can make her own decisions.

I don’t think I would tell my parents before teh wedding, I would not make a big deal of it and would let them be responsible for any drama. If they do end up not talking to you, then that’s a character flaw with them and tattoos should not prevent them from having a relationship with you.

Post # 13
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would tell them too, they might be more shocked if they have to find out on the wedding day. I have two tattoos that I got after my parents moved out of state. I never made a point to mention it because I knew they wouldn’t approve. They have seen them since, and although I got a disapproving look from my dad, they dealt ok. They are your parents and they love you, I would be utterly shocked if your tattoos made them want to miss your wedding.

If you still want to cover them you can try MAC, this one is their heaviest concealed:



Makeup forever


I like the glamoflauge too; I actually use that for my horrible dark circles and a scar on my leg.

Post # 14
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Dermablend Dermablend Dermablend!!


Though, If you can’t find something that covers well enough just tell them.  I sincerely doubt they will  make the choice to not attend their daughter’s wedding over something like that.

Post # 15
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mainejen:  not sure if this is any consolation to you, but my father told me years and years ago that he would disown me if I ever got a real tattoo. I have two, and he knows about both. he doesn’t understand why I wanted them, but he realizes that it’s my body and I can do what I want with it.

I got them with my mother, without telling him. He only found out about them after the fact.

Post # 16
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Could you wear maybe a lace jacket that would cover up the front a bit, like something like this:



Or you put make up on it and ask one of your bridesmaid to keep an aye on it and help your reapply some whenever needed

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