Post # 1
This is a “just for fun” kind of thread. Before I got pregnant I felt like the first trimester would definitely be the hardest in terms of scare factor. I basically thought that after the first tri was over there would be difficulties (getting big, not able to move around, eventual birth, etc.) that would come up but I had no idea that they’d be really scary.
I think that where I’m at right now (21w2d) is the scariest so far. I’ve had a lot of time to fall in love with my little guy and I’m still a couple of weeks from the viability point (24 weeks). Right now I just feel like we’re so close but soooo far away still and have become overly paranoid about the possibility of premature labor or shortening of my cervix happening in the next week or two.
What stage of pregnancy was scariest for you? Or were you pretty much at peace with everything?
Post # 3
Getting past my MC point, definately. I go in on Monday for my NT scan. I have told myself from there I just need to let things go. I think once the baby starts moving soon that will help too.
I have had some many issues with all of pregnancies anad they have happened at all different points the abruption at the end, the SCH at the begining, and then the miscarriage. So I have to just rmind myself that it is out of my hands and me worrying non-stop won’t change anyhthing. This is defiantely my last pregnancy so I want to be able to enjoy it, at some point:)
Post # 4
I am in the first trimester still and yes it feels like everything is out to get me!
A very happy Pit Bull bounded towards me at work yesterday and I was afraid he was going to shove me in the stomach or something. I have never had that reaction before.
Post # 5
@ieatunicorns: Such good points. There’s really no point where you can be 100% sure that you’re “safe”…even after first tri, even after viability, even after hitting full term, etc. so it’s totally worth it to get as much enjoyment as you can without turning yourself into a stressed out crazy person 🙂
Just to note, I really am LOVING pregnancy. It seriously is mostly just during times where I’m left alone with my thoughts that I find my imagination getting away with me. Every one of my son’s kicks reminds me that this is such a beautiful time…even I make it scary sometimes!
Post # 6
Since I’m still in the first trimester of pregnancy, I would say this is the scariest stage. When I used to dream about being a mom, I never knew that a.) it would take more than 1 month of *trying* to get pregnant, b.) how common miscarriages are, and c.) what all can go wrong in a pregnancy. Had I not had a previous MC, I might be a little more relaxed during this pregnancy, however, I am on edge ALL THE TIME. I overanalyze everything. I really haven’t had many symptoms so that drives me nuts…and instead of considering myself one of the lucky ones, I’m constantly complaining about being symptom free. Crazy? I know! I’m sure once I hit the second trimester, I’ll have even more worries. But for now, 1st trimester is scary enough for me. I wish I could just sit back, relax, and enjoy this pregnancy, but it seems that’s too much to ask!
Post # 7
I was somehow able to be completely carefree and stressfree when I was pregnant. I don’t know what it was but it was pure bliss. I just knew that everything would be ok. I’ve never felt as amazing as when I was pregnant.
Post # 8
everything. Like you said:
1. it was 1st trimester
2. it was until age of viability (current fear)
3. complications leading to early labor & baby being left in NICU (I would seriously not leave the hospital)
Everything is scary but I am still managing to enjoy it:)
Post # 9
@angela85: I honestly hope that one day when I am pregnant I can have that same experience!! What were your secrets! 🙂
eta: do you live in iceland, too? maybe that’s the secret…
Post # 10
For me it was a period during the second trimester when most of the first trimester symptoms had passed (constant nausea, overwhelming exhaustion, etc–when I felt like a real person again), but before I started feeling movement.
But I’ve been pretty paranoid this whole pregnancy. It wasn’t until a week or two ago that I started relaxing about the idea of pre-term labor. It would be a problem if it happened now, but there are a lot of success stories of early deliveries at this point (including my healthy, hearty, boisterous eight-year-old newphew who was born via emergency c-sec at 30 weeks).
Of course now I’m paranoid about the cord wrapping around Bebe’s neck, and there not being a heartbeat when I get to the hospital, so the worry never stops, it just morphs.
Post # 11
For me it was in the 2nd tri. I developed kidney stones and thought I was in premature labor even after everything I did to prevent that from happening. Because my 1st was a premie my 2nd was more likely to be so. I did what I could but there was no guarantee, all the worrying was for naught he was born at 39w5d…lol
Post # 12
For me, it was the end and giving birth. That’s because I had to have c-sections. My first pregnancy was twins, both were breech so it was too risky to try a vaginal. The recovery from this one was horrible.
Then when I had my daughter, I wanted a vaginal birth after cesarean. I was nervous about that because I had to wait until I went into labor to find out if I could. My midwife and doctor did not want to induce with her, because pitcoin increases the risk of uterine rupture with VBACs. Needless to say, I was scared while I waited. I went into labor. 29 hours, never got past 2 cm and my daughter was in distress. So I ended up with another c-section, which I was also afraid of.
Post # 13
@Running Elley: Honestly I feel the same way you do, I’m finding the road to viability to be torturously long and difficult. I find myself constantly looking for signs of PTL or IC because I would be devastated at this point if we lost Emma, and even more so if it was something I could’ve prevented or detected. I know that the likelihood of me having IC is pretty low because I have none of the risk factors, but it still freaks me out.
Post # 14
Late 3rd trimester. I have a very profound fear of something going wrong so close to the end.
Post # 16
I can relate to a lot of these different points. Like angela85 I just knew from the moment we got the BFP that everything was going to be ok. I didn’t really worry about m/c during the first tri, even though I’d had one before, because I just had this feeling that it wasn’t going to happen again. I also felt great throughout the first tri so that may have helped keep the positive attitude.
Then, like Running Elley, I started getting nervous just before the viability stage. By that point, I was pretty attached to my baby, even though I wasn’t feeling movement yet, and I was just paranoid that something was going to happen just before viability was possible. Fortunately, that feeling only lasted a week or so.
Now, at 38w 2d, I’m in the same boat as KatyElle, I am really scared that something is going to go wrong at the very end – there are just so many things that could go wrong and the thought that something may happen and we may not be able to bring our baby home absolutely terrifies me. I really don’t care that much about labour, I just want everything to be ok with the baby! I can’t wait for this little one to arrive so I can just stop worrying!
Hahaha, who am I kidding? Apparently this is just the start of the worry that continues for the rest of our lives!