(Closed) Scarring on back/shoulders + strapless dress… Is a lace bolero an option?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Could I wear a lace bolero with this dress?
    NO, it would clash with the detail at the top! : (8 votes)
    26 %
    Maybe, as long as you make sure the lace matches the detail.. : (6 votes)
    19 %
    YES! Something small/cap-sleeved. : (5 votes)
    16 %
    YES! Something short-sleeved. : (2 votes)
    6 %
    NO! Be yourself. : (6 votes)
    19 %
    Other (please post) : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    1522 posts
    Bumble bee

    IMO if your okay with it dont cover up that beautiful dress. your gonna look sooo gorgeous it wont be noticed if anything wear ur hair down similar to th model

    Post # 4
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I voted to just try something small and cap sleeved. In the end, it’s really completely up to your comfort level. Your guests will likely not even notice. But if you are concerned, then maybe check out Etsy – there’s quite a few nice lace boleros on there.

    When I met my now Darling Husband, I was very self conscious about scars on my back too. I’ve had quite a few biopsies due to possible skin cancer, which have left their mark. He made me feel beautiful and completely forget about them. I did, and my dress had a key hole back on our wedding day. No one made mention of those scars at all. I only noticed them in one wedding pic, which was of my Mom doing up the back of my dress for me. Other than that, it was like the scars aren’t even there.

    Post # 5
    511 posts
    Busy bee

    There are a number of ‘matching’ bolero jackets to go with your dress available, although I don’t think a lace one is what you’d want.  Stick with the same fabric as your dress and it will look amazing!

    Post # 7
    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I say forget your aunt. You feel comfortable, don’t let her bring you down. It’s your day and they wont be looking at your back. Have you considered tanning? If it’s upsetting to you perhaps a fake air brush tan before the wedding? Tanning helps cover scars

    Post # 8
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have a huge scar on the top of my left arm after I got scalded with coffee when I was 2.

    No one ever notices it, and the only people who mention it are people I’ve known a long time (and so know about it because it’s come up in conversation). I was asked if I’d get a dress that hid mine, and they seemed shocked when I looked at them like they were crazy!

    In my opinion, you shouldn’t cover it up. It’s a part of who you are and it’s something that’s important in your relationship. If your Fiance has helped develop your confidence around your scars, then you show the world just how confident he’s made you.

    Your Fiance sounds wonderful and that is a gorgeous dress!

    ETA: you need a “NO! Be yourself!” option in the poll 🙂

    Post # 9
    1224 posts
    Bumble bee

    Why don’t you just wear your hair down? I feel like a bolero would take away from the neckline and detailing. If you’re worried about the scars appearing in getting-ready pictures, speak to your photographer. They should be able to work around that fairly easily.

    Post # 10
    511 posts
    Busy bee

    @anothersmith:  There are some on Etsy, and some on other bridal sites.  Perhaps go to wherever you got your dress?

    Post # 11
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nah, I wouldn’t.  Do you have long hair? You could wear it down.  And your veil will cover your back during the ceremony which is when people would most notice.

    Post # 12
    3776 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    I wouldn’t.  Be confident and don’t give that scar a second thought.

    Post # 13
    2053 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @lovelove1028:  You might contact the manufacturer of your dress and see if you can get a couple yards of the fabric to bring to a seamstress/tailor who can create a custom bolero for you. You can bring a photo of a shape of a bolero you like as a reference. Good luck!

    EDIT: My Maid/Matron of Honor did this for her dress and it came out beautifully.


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