Post # 1
So my daughter is 2 and she has decided to be Belle for Halloween. I’m going to order her the dress from the Disney store, Belle shoes, tiara, wand etc. It’s going to be so cute, she’s super excited.
Her bff is also 2 and I watch her during the week. I will have her on Halloween. She has been talking about being Tinkerbell for about a month now. The girl has blond hair with bangs, blue eyes, really petite for her age. Pretty much looks just like Tinkerbell. Her parents aren’t the type to buy her a costume and would probably throw something together last minute. I already decided I will just buy the costume for her. I was so excited to take pics of the girls in their pretty dresses.
Well today, the girl’s older sister spilled the beans the parents have convinced her to be a “scary dead Dora” instead of Tinkerbell. WTF? How is that at all appropriate for her age? Keep in mind this girl scares pretty easy too. I do not want my daughter hanging out with a “dead Dora” all day. She has started having nightmares recently and I’m already a bit worried about the scary stuff she will see that day. Should I buy her the Tinkerbell costume anyway? Say something to her parents? It just seems so ridiculous. And I doubt they’d even buy her a costume at all, probably just use scary blood and makeup.
Would you ever let your toddler dress up as something dead or scary?
Post # 3
@7-9-11bride: It’s not your child. It’s theirs.
What I would do doesn’t matter. I also wouldn’t judge someone who didn’t “buy” their child a halloween costume.
Post # 4
I would talk to the parents and explain that you are affraid of how the costume would affect your daughter. Buying it anyway could upset the parents because it could seem like you are making parental decisions for them. Explain that you know she wanted to be Tinkerbelle and how cute it would be to see them both in Disney costumes, etc. etc. But really I would stress the possible fear your daughter might have from her costume. Maybe she could just be Dora. That could be cute. Leave off the dead part!
Post # 5
I think that is ridiculous! Who would do that. Maybe u should tell them u wanted to buy her a tinker be costume she wants as a gift
Post # 6
OMG Dead Dora? That would make my daughters cry… Why would you be a dead childrens character at any age?
Post # 7
Uh yeah, I’m really not a fan of dead children costumes. Gross.
Post # 8
I am with mtwitter on this one
Post # 9
The girl has been talking about being Tinkerbell for a month. She was super excited. I’m not “judging” them for not buying her a costume. It’s that they aren’t into “girly things” and they don’t appear to have a lot of cash so I thought I’d be nice and just get it for her. Also I am sad for her to have something she clearly wants taken away. I’ve told her mom about tinkerbell and she originally was like “oh that’d be so cute.”
Post # 10
LOL I LOVE Dead Dora! Obviously I voted “Yes it’s fun” and obviously I don’t have kids. I do think you can be “dead” and age appropriate. I’ve seen some pretty cute zombie and vampire babies. Halloween is a day to not take everything so seroiusly so I like the out of the box costumes. If the dead dora toddler is scared, I would assume the parents would adjust her costume accordingly. If you’re worried about your little one, the girls don’t have to hang out together.
Post # 11
Agree with mwitter.
Also, my Dad always *wanted* me to be scary things, since Halloween is supposed to be scary, not about princesses right? In the end, I got to be whatever I wanted, so I’d trade off years between being things like Dorothy with sparkly red shoes & vampires.
Post # 12
I’d let the parents dress her how they want to dress her. Lots of little ghouls and baby vampires running around on Halloween!
Post # 13
That seems oddly twisted to me… who dresses their small child up like a DEAD version of a cartoon character? If it were something that was supposed to be that way, zombies, ghosts, vampires ect, it makes sense. I don’t get making things creepy like that just for creepy sake. And especially on a toddler.
Post # 14
This girl was terrified of her fish costume last year and cried the whole night looking at her dressed up scary sister. The parents think dead/scary stuff is cool but this girl likes princesses. Also I do daycare for them so yes my daughter will be hanging out with her that day. That’s why I’m concerned. But maybe I’m overreacting?
Post # 15
I think masks are more of what kids are frightened of at that age, as well as spooky sounds. I think she’ll be fine. (but then again, my 4 year old great neice is afraid of Santa and the Easter bunny, so you just never know what will scare most kids.)
Post # 16
I personally wouldn’t do it but I think the only thing you can do is tell your daughter she can’t hang out with her friend on Halloween if it will scare her.
Unfortunately you can’t make that decision for the parents. Also, I wouldn’t be buying an expensive costume for my 2 year old either (it’s great if you want to, but I probably wouldn’t). I doubt they would even know the difference! I always had home made costumes (not hand-sewn, but put together with things around the house etc.) and that’s just fine too 🙂 The parents might get offended if you buy one because maybe they can’t afford one themselves.