- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I’m pregnant with my first child and thinking about when we’ll have the baptism. The baby is due in late May. I’m a teacher, so I have the summer off, and I might get the month of August as well. The baptism will be in my hometown, which is 5 hours from where we live.
I have a few concerns with the baptism:
1. minimizing travel to and from my hometown for baptism prep. Right now I’m planning to travel for Christmas, New Year’s, Easter, and a baby shower (although I’d prefer the shower to be on Easter weekend to make it a two-for-one). And then after the birth I’ll come up for Fourth of July weekend, and then not again until the baptism. I think it will be good for my mental health to be away from my extended family during the later months of my pregnancy, in addition to the fact that I won’t want to be 5 hours away from my doctor.
2. a convenient date for the baptism as far as the school year and my maternity leave. Since the baptism will be on a Sunday, I’ll want my husband and me to have the following Monday off work so we won’t have to leave the party early to drive home. Labor Day weekend might work, but people might have other parties to go to as well. Probably my first day back at work would be the Tuesday after Labor Day, so I might still be kind of stressed traveling the weekend before that. I have a fall break in mid-October and would probably prefer to wait until then if it’s possible.
3. I want to have enough time to get back into shape, fitting into my normal clothes. I know this is a vain, selfish concern, but these pictures will be forever, and I don’t want to feel self-conscious in front of my extended family. But I know that it’s nine months up, nine months down, and I don’t want to set myself up with unrealistic expectations for how I’ll look by setting the baptism date too early.
4. As far as the theology behind the sacrament goes, earlier baptism is better, if I understand right. And the baby has to be small enough to fit into my family’s baptism gown.
So I guess my questions are–
Do you think I’d be able to do the baptism prep in just a couple visits with the priest this spring? It’s got to be less intensive than marriage prep, right?
Do you think scheduling a baptism on Labor Day weekend is a bad idea for guests?
Do you think waiting until Labor Day weekend or mid-October will allow me enough time to get to where I feel ok about my appearance again? I’m someone who’s had body image issues her whole life…
Do you think waiting until mid-October is absurd? Will the baby fit in the gown?