Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2016 - Long Island, NY
My FH and I got engaged in December 2014. He is in a DPT program, and will be done with his doctorate in May 2016. As I am a public school teacher in NYC, a summer wedding is most accomodating for me, so we decided to marry July 2016 (less than 2 weeks after he finishes his licensing exam). This was our timeline all along, so we scheduled our engagement around it. I wanted about 12-18 months to plan the wedding, so I figured we’d be getting engaged around the beginning of this year. I guess my FH didn’t want to wait any longer, so he popped the question 19 months before we planned on getting married (not complaining here- super happy!).
I know that doesn’t totally help you out, but I figured I’d chime in. It seems like planning around breaks is what most people do. Most teachers that I know (I understand it isn’t the same, but we do have a workload and also get breaks so it’s kindof similar) get married in the summer, and those that do not always get married over winter break (Christmas/New Years). Good luck!
Post # 17
My Fiance is in law school, and we scheduled our wedding for when he is on a summer break (he’s finishing his 2L year right now, and we’re getting married in about 7 weeks). For us, it was the only realistic possibility, and I definitely understand what you mean about scheduling conflicts – though choosing our date wasn’t as difficult as it will be for you.
During the summers, law students have internships, and your 2nd summer internship is usually the most important, as it is likely to lead to full-time employment after you graduate. Fiance has his dream internship this summer, which starts mid-May. We’re getting married June 6th, so he’ll be in the thick of things, but he’s already talked to them about taking the Friday before off and they’re very understanding and happy to let him have the day. The only negative is that he has to go right back to work on Monday, so we’re not taking our honeymoon until about 6 weeks after the wedding when his internship is done.
If I were you, I’d choose a weekend during a break. If you need to take a day or two off, I’m sure that will be fine and they’ll be very understanding. Good luck and congrats!
Post # 17
Thanks again, everyone — I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experiences and suggestions! If anyone else is in my shoes and has been following this thread, I wanted to post that I’ve been chatting a little with a current PhD student in my program, and finally broached this with her this morning; she’s really friendly (though not engaged herself), so it seemed like a good way to test the departmental waters.
Basically, she advised me against making too much of a fuss about wedding planning — as I had anticipated, and as is reasonable in a work environment — and against a break or term-time weekend wedding, just because so much work is assigned over those periods. She did say, though, that the summer research is more flexible than I had been led to believe, and that I could probably take two weeks before the start of my summer work to get married and have a brief honeymoon — especially since we’d like to honeymoon in Italy or Greece, which are on the way to one of my summer fieldsites! I’m still not thrilled about getting married and then having to up and leave for 2-ish months of overseas work, but I really like my partner and I really like my job, so if this is how I can have them both, so be it! So feeling a little less overwhelmed today 🙂