(Closed) school or baby?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If your Darling Husband is supportive and you think that you would wait to TTC, then I’d say wait. Focus on you and your school work. 

I wanted to wait to TTC; however, I got pregnant on the honeymoon which was very unexpected. I’m supposed to go for my Masters this fall and I’m due to July… We’ll see how it works out. I think I can do it, I’m just trying to mentally prepare myself for it. And have lots of back up! 

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Having literally just completed my Bachelor of Nursing degree, it is full on. There is a lot you have to continuously prepare yourself for, whether it be exams, clinicals and obviously for your future career. You will need a lot of strength, determination and the least amount of ‘distraction’ as possible. Your body will go through lots of changes while you’re pregnant and you will get tired a lot. It’s tough. If I were in your situation, I would try to at least finish my degree before having kids.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

School! You have plenty of time for babies and it would be so much harder to lock down that degree as a mom. Get your career ducks in a row first!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@marinewife4:  That’s so sweet he’s supporting you in all of this! If he was dying to TTC I know it would be hard on him as well! But he’s right, happy wife happy life! ;D 

Thank you! I’m nervous… However, I think I can do this! Lots of women do it everyday! My mom was one of them. If for some reason it gets too difficult, I can always get a full-time job and wait until the baby gets older and is less of a demand. 🙂 Nothing in life is ever set in stone! I guess I’m just trying to stay as positive as possible! 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My former lab assistant was in the nursing program and got pregnant (while using BC I might add). She continued on until right before she delivered and has been able to go back since. About two years later, she got pregnant AGAIN (again while on BC), so now she has two little kids at home, is working part-time and it will probably be several years until she can complete the nursing program.

I know the nursing program at our College is VERY demanding in terms of studying and TIME. Personally I would recommend getting your nursing degree first and then go for the baby.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@marinewife4:  I know 3 girls who were in the same class and pregnant within a month of one another. They all graduation with their RN and literally just gave birth before finals. Its tough but it can be done!! It was so funny they all did group preggo-nursing pics lol

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Finish school, 27 is not old to be starting a family.  I don’t think I will be starting before 30 (I’m 27 now) and it’s not anything I am worried about.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Finish school first.

I have a 2 year old, and I take ONE online course per semester and I have become a total slack-ass regarding my studies (I also work 40+ hours a week too though). It’s really tough to balance baby + schooling.

 

Good luck 🙂

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am in nursing school and pregnant right now. It is difficult to say the least. Please wait til after nursing school to start having babies! Morning sickness isn’t a joke. 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@marinewife4:  A woman in my class (already had two kids) got pregnant partway through one of the years. The teachers were very accomodating for her by allowing her to do work at home to finish off the semmester. She took the summer off and came back on a part time basis for a year until she was able to come back full time. You should talk to your professors to first see if arrangements could be made for situations like this.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@marinewife4:  Hun don’t worry about other people Wink. I too am 25, and I also am a late in the game for Uni (I had the opportunity in my post high-school years to travel and work overseas…so I think I spent my time well for puttting off school)

I wont be done till I am 27 also, but in the end I will have a Bcomm degree in a great business school, and I think it’s best to wait beore babies…school can get stressfull as it is….and expensive, and you don’t want the extra expense of baby as well as school at the same time. 

This all reminds me that I should be studying for finals…lol. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@marinewife4:  Honestly… if it were me, and I had the financial and emotional support to do so… I’d do both at the same time. But I share your wanting kids young desire. I think lots of smart, educated women put kids on hold so they can do schooling, career, “me time”, etc. There has to be a middle ground. School will always be there, the ability to have kids, spend many years with them, and see your grandkids: that may not always be there.

My mom had me young and I still can hang out with her and do fun activities with her. FI’s mother had him at 35, his dad 45. His dad is now 73 and not in the best of health. Who knows how much time (if any) he’d have to spend with future grandkids? He has none currently. We are going to TTC in Sept next year. But I’m sure I’m in the minority. This is just if it were me. Really you are the one who knows what is best for you and your family.

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I were you I would do school first…but I’m saying that because I don’t think 2 years will be that bad. You could wait two years and make a solid plan about TTC and save money and all that. And you could even start TTC towards the middle or end of your second year.

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