(Closed) Scorpion arm tattoo- Really BM/SIL? Really?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Can you purchase pashminas for your BMs and request they ALL wear them during formals?  That way you wouldn’t be singling out your Future Sister-In-Law, but you’d get the coverage it sounds like you really want!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I think that this is just something you deal with.  I think asking her to cover it (or asking Fiance to ask her to cover it) is a fairly Bridezilla tactic.  Maybe talk to your photog and ask them to try NOT photographing the tattoo if at all possible.  If you haven’t gotten your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses as of late – start looking for ones with sleeves.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree with SanDiegoAli-I’d ask the photographer to try to avoid the tattoo.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Is anyone showing or covering tattoos?  If so, I would have her do what others are doing.  But if not, and she is the only one with a tattoo, make it non-personal.  Don’t make it about her specific choice of tattoo.  Just say you would prefer any tattoos to be covered during pictures, and ask would she like make up or a pashmina.  Give her the options and buy it for her.

Is talking to her mom an option?

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am sure the photographer has heard requests like this several times.  I wouldn’t worry about him “worrying about it.” 

Maybe she won’t notice if you photoshop it out of pics 🙂 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I think she’ll be the one embarassed, not you! Yes, it might end up in your pictures, but it’s not like it’s stamped on your face! Your wedding and your pictures overall won’t be view in negative light because of her tattoo–only she will (plus now she’s stuck with the hideous thing forever!) I would probably just let it go if you can.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

if you are doing posed photos, maybe give the photog a heads up that you would like him to hide tattoos. As long as her other arm is fine, I’m fairly certain you could just find an angle that works.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d just like to disagree that I don’t think its “bridezilla” at all to ask someone to slap some makeup on a huge hideous scorpion tattoo for one day. They made the choice to get that tattoo, not you! You don’t have to like it just becuase you like the person who has it! If someone wanted me to cover my tattoos if I had any for their day I totally would! Its not like you’re asking her to cut her hair or do something permanent.

At the very least, if you’re worried about her reaction to covering it up with makeup, you can have your photographer photoshop it out later.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Whether or not it’s a bridezilla move to ask a bridesmaid to cover up a tattoo for wedding photos, this Bridesmaid or Best Man (and many others) might not take to it kindly, especially since jennifer_espos already mentioned that she can get a bit defensive. I would definitely either go with the pashmina wraps for all your BMs, or just photoshop it out later. And save some un-photoshopped pics in case she wants to see them after the wedding.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If Fiance is close to her, have him mention, from his point of view of course, that he’d like her to cover it up. Or, if it was done better it might be ok? But if it’s done poorly i can see your concerns.

Let HIM test the waters. This way you have nothing to do with it! Then, if she says no, just roll with it and have the photographer do shots where the girls are facing sideways with you (tattoo-less arm) and angle them so that the scorpion isn’t trying to eat your face off or anything.

Is she generally an eccentric person that she has lots of piercings or tattoos or bright red hair or anything that it just fits her personality? Or does it just make her look trashy I guess? Whenever people talk about big tattoos, I think of Mrs. Sushis’ and how cool it looked! Even though it was a large portion of her back.

There is definitely a distinction between tastefully done ink and ink not done well.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

You could just ask your photog for some good photoshop, or ask her to cover it up with some tattoo concealer. I know Kat von D just came out with some. It’s available at Sephora.

I’d get him to talk to her if he’s closer.

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