(Closed) Scorpion arm tattoo- Really BM/SIL? Really?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m all about the photoshop if it distracts in the pictures, but I would be careful to say anything about the tatoo. I like Miss Bruchetta’s idea!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

I would say if you feel comfortable sit down and have a talk with her..I personally wouldn’t be offended if I were to be in a wedding and the bride asked me to cover it up.

Post # 19
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Gotcha. I hope i wasn’t implying she was trashy; i’ve seen some alternative brides with cool tattoos and red hair and their tattoo just “fits” their punky personality.

But yes, a poorly done tattoo is never good, no matter how small or large.

I’m sure she realizes this too…hopefully she’ll get it re-inked so it looks awesome!

Keep it in the family as much as possible. I’d be really sensitive if I’d had some work done on my body (anything, really) and it turned out badly =(

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

If it is something that will bother you, then you need to address it.  I think the best idea is Miss Bruchetta’s of getting the girls pashminas or some other type of shaw.  But if you don’t want to do that, talk to her.  I understand it could be difficult and potentially cause some bad blood.  But it will be worth it if it is going to bother you after the wedding.  Remember, you will be looking at these pictures for the rest of your life!  Otherwise, you could Photoshop the pictures afterwards or get the photographer to do so to remove what you don’t like!

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is really a difficult issue, you don’t want to offend her, but you don’t want to have that ugly tattoo wandering around on your wedding day. I would get someone to talk to her about makeup, it really isn’t that hard to cover up a tattoo, especially if it’s just black lines. 

I’m only having two girls stand up with me, and even though the wedding is a year away because we live in different cities we got together to pick out their dresses last month. Not two weeks after one of my bridesmaids picked out her low open-backed dress did she go out and get an enormous tattoo on her back. This tattoo has got to be a foot wide and ten inches long. Did I mention that it’s two elephants in a compromising position? I have yet to figure out why she wanted animals mating on her back, but I did tell her that unless she wanted my ninety year old grandmother to have a heart attack at the wedding that we would have to find her another dress, or some really great makeup. 

She was completely understanding and not offended at all! Then again, when you have pornographic elephants on your back you might expect people to be a little taken aback!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had a similar problem with one of my girls who has an arm sleeve. Personally I think the tattoo is cool looking but for formals – not so much. I was originally freaking out, considering the pashmina or makeup thing, but now I’m like you know what? Whatever. It’s part of her. It’s fine. We had a chat about it and she offered to wear the Kat von D stuff but (a) my wedding is in August and that stuff will sweat off in a hot second, (b) it doesnt work very well for a large area anyway (look on the web for the pre-photoshopped picture of Kat wearing it before you tell me it works, pls. kaythanks), and (c) even if she did wear it there is huge potential for it to get all over her dress, other peoples dresses, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, my dress. Screw it. Not worth the trouble IMO. It did take me a while to get to this point where I’m over it, though.

@Honeybird: The mating elephants is a whole different ballgame. I’m kind of dying to see what it looks like – do you have a pic?

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I, too, am oddly curious about this elephant tattoo ;o)

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I do not have a picture of the elephant tattoo, I saw it in person a few days after she got it, but the next time I see her I will definitely try to snap a photo. The best explanation she can give is that she thought it would be “funny”. I think it’s a really long way to go for a joke. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry girls, I’m going to have to disagree with some of you.  Maybe I’m a bit of a push over but I honestly think that it would be a bit bridezilla-ish to ask a person to cover up the tattoo.  Seriously, today it’s a tattoo, tomorrow it’ll be another Bridesmaid or Best Man who had their hair dyed a colour you don’t necessarily agree with. 

I’ve seen some bad things when it comes to brides trying to control their BMs.  Certainly I’m not saying that’s the case here, but I take issues with brides who feel they have a right to create the perfect BMs for the sake of their pictures.  Sheesh, I’ve even heard of brides choosing girls who are X feet tall and X lbs to make sure they have the perfect bridal party.

Again, totally not saying that’s what’s going on here but I think we should just relax and leave the BMs be.

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