Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Have you used a non-traditional RSVP- ie, by means of your wedding website, just giving guests your contact info, etc?
I have a wedding website through theknot.com but have heard mixed reviews regarding RSVP’s through the site…?
I want to say “Here’s our email and phone numbers. Please call, text, Facebook us, email or go to our website to respond by_____.” Seems like a smart idea in this tech-savvy age…Has anyone done this? Has it worked? Eager to hear what you think.
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t do it for a more formal wedding, but for an informal wedding I might consider it.
Post # 4
I am doing it through another website but we have decided we are doing this. My mother, who is a very traditional italian even said RSVP cards are a waste of money and to do it that way or to call to RSVP. We are having a very formal italian wedding so I think it is perfectly fine and saves money!
Post # 5
I like the idea that people can call, text, or email you. Quite often I try to open some website in my iphone (where I check most email) or ipad and the link will not work. As long as you can an alternate method, it should be OK.
Can you post when your RSVP window is over and let us know how people liked the idea?
Post # 6
I used weddingwire.com for people to do online rsvp’s but we also included a card for people without internet access. Wedding wire is good, because there is a mobile version for smart phones!
Some issues I had with it were:
-You just searched for your name and it would come up. Which was fine, but anyone to rsvp for anyone else or change the rsvp. It worked out okay in that no one messed around with it, but it is possible.
-There is no option for adding a plus one. So if we gave John Smith a “and guest” we had to either know the name of the person he was bringing or do what we did and add a guest with the first name of “Guest Of” and for the last name put “John Smith”
-You have to add people to a “Family” or it won’t let you add the guest. It was really annoying because my husband has a large family. I split them into his mom and dad’s sides, but there were still a lot. The annoying thing was if you searched by last name, everyone listed in that “family” came up, even if they had a different last name.
-Some people got confused and rsvp’d via the “contact us” section. You then have to go into the site and rsvp them youself.
-You can create multiple events and when you first start it adds all the guests to the ceremony and reception. I figured people would get confused by having to rsvp for both the ceremony and the recpetion differently so I just hide the reception part and made sure every guest was added to only the ceremony.
-You can import the guests via you email contacts or by a spread sheet. But the spread sheet has to be the way the sample is on wedding wire for it to work. I didn’t understand it so I added every single guest and every single plus one individually. It sucked and took forever.
Just make sure you really test out how the RSVP part works on whichever website you use. I thought I tested wedding wire pretty well before we settled on using it, but I guess not! Friends of mine also made up an email address for people to rsvp. I think that might be easier!
Post # 7
If you do this I would advise streamlining it so all the responses are going to one place. I think it would get major confusing and overwhelming for you to have people responding to a variety of places.
Post # 8
I used weddingjojo for our wedding website and I loved it. So much easier and everyone RSVP’d before the RSVP date. I would def recommend to anyone else.
Post # 9
I’m using theknot’s wedding website (names.ourwedding.com) and so far it has worked perfectly, people can’t easily just add a plus one which I love since we aren’t giving plus ones (couples are invited both by name, no random dates allowed). Our wedding is incredibly formal but is also incredibly YOUNG, everybody non-family is under 30, everybody in my family using computers and social media etc etc and can figure out how to enter their name online, it’s awesome that it keeps track for you, and every single person so far has said “oh thank god, so much more convenient than a card!” lol
Post # 10
We used the knot RSVP through our wedding website with them and it worked fine! Of course there were some that we just found out were coming through word of mouth or by talking to them. But for the majority it was great. I would much rather RSVP to someone’s wedding by text or email or phone or online rather than having to drop a card in the mail!
Post # 11
I have all my guests in WeddingWire’s database, but am unsure if I want to use it quite yet.
As of right now, my mom, myself and my fiancee all have access, so if we decide to do the “call, text, email” thing, we can just make the adjustments ourselves.
Post # 12
I used online RSVP – it worked great *except* Fiance got the names of some of his relatives mis-spelled -so they couldn’t find their names! I thought they were being awful and not responding, when we finally figured it out I felt *awful* – so if you go this route, have another relative who knows names review the online list!
Post # 13
I have no personal experience, but I’ve been told TK’s can be glitchy. I’ve heard horror stories of brides losing their RSVP’s. So, my advice is to have a back up. Check the tracker often and transcribe to a document on your computer.
Also, with that said, if I was invited to a wedding with e-RSVPs I would expect it to be a casual, informal wedding. Remember, the formalilty of your invitation, RSVPs included, is what dictates to your guests how formal the wedding will be. So, if you are hoping to have a formal affair, avoid online/text/ect RSVPs, but if casual is your goal then I say go for it!
Post # 14
We used theknot for rsvps for our formal wedding and so far no one is assuming its casual. Only one guest had technical difficulties and I think that was because we had her name spelled wrong in the system. I would say 85 percent of our guest ended up using it and the rest called, texted, or emailed. It’s 2012, why waste paper and postage if you don’t have to?
Doing the rsvps online also made it super easy for both Fiance and I to update the guest list and seating chart no matter where we were. Saved us so much time and money!
Post # 15
We used mywedding.com and I loved it over all. All our guests thought it was awesome that they could RSVP online plus it had all the info they needed.
Post # 16
We’re using weddingwire and it’s working great so far! It’s easy for us to keep track of everyone, instant gratification, our guests seem to find it easy to use, and nobody can add on extra guests that we haven’t invited ;o) For the few guests that we gave an open-ended +1 to, I just listed them as “Bob” and “Bob’s guest” on there.
I really love how easy it is to look at the list and see who hasn’t RSVP’d, who has said no, and who has said yes. It also allows you to input the addresses and make notes (we’re making notes on what hotels everyone is staying at), so everything is all in one place. We mentioned the formality of the wedding on the web site (cocktail attire), and from what people are describing what they’re wearing, it seems to be working perfectly!
Now it doesn’t prevent people from being stragglers and not responding, but that will happen no matter what type of RSVP you do! Honestly, if I had to do it again, I wouldn’t do it differently – this system has worked awesomely for us.