Post # 1
I think I messed up. I emailed three potential officiants, two of whom had the same first name – Marie – and one of the Maries emailed me back saying she was already booked for my date. I confused her for the other Marie, who was my first choice. So when I heard back from another one (different name), I reserved the date and forwarded the payment info to my Mom. Then I heard back from the other Marie and realized I goofed. I emailed and called my mom and told her not to pay the other officiant until I talk to her but she hasn’t gotten back to me. Kinda having a freakout.
Also, now I feel really bad if we end up not using the woman I reserved. What am I supposed to say if that happens? This is what happens when I don’t have enough coffee in the morning!
Post # 3
I think if you confirmed the wrong Marie, you could just appologize and explain your error. I would do so sooner rather than later in case she has other interested parties in the same date. If you have not signed a contract or made a payment, it’s not a legal issue. I think she should understand if you tell her what happened.
Post # 4
The problem is I don’t know if my mom paid her yet. She uses a Paypal account in addition to checks so my mom may have just done it. My mom really needs to call me back NOW so I can figure it out.
I don’t feel comfortable saying OH SORRY I THOUGHT YOU WERE SOMEONE ELSE. Actually that’s not even what happened. The one we reserved is the one that ISN’T named Marie (see above); the problem was that I thought the Marie that said she was booked was the other Marie who was my first choice. If my mom hasn’t paid her yet I might lie and say Fiance thinks he wants to have his rabbi perform the service. It’s something we contemplated, so it’s not a 100% lie…
OMFG if my mom doesnt call me back I am going to SCREAM.
Post # 5
Okay, let me get this straight…
Marie1 is your first choice
Marie2 is busy
you THOUGHT Marie1 was busy
so you told your mom to book Non-Marie
but now you want to unbook Non-Marie and book Marie1 (your initial first choice, who, as it turns out, is not busy afterall) instead.
Hmm… I see your dilemma.
Post # 6
@daydream – yes that’s it exactly. i know, it’s complicated, which is why i screwed it up in the first place.
My mom NEVER answers her cell phone! What is the point of having a cell phone if you aren’t going to answer it. My stress level is high right now. I just want to talk to her and sort this out already!
Post # 7
Just a heads up… we heard (from our venue coordinator) that the marie who rhymes with smiley can be very pushy. don’t know if she’s your marie1 or marie2, but in case she’s marie1… you may be better off with non-marie.