Post # 1
I don’t know… does anyone suffer from this? I feel silly even posting this because I feel like I am over-reacting but ever since the clocks went back and it’s been getting pitch black at 5pm something is definitely not right.
My symptoms sound like I’m depressed… constantly lethargic, spending all my time indoors, not getting dressed if I don’t have to leave the house and just walking around in my dressing gown all day, constantly eating and wanting to sleep again but… everything is going so well for me at the moment!! My relationship with my SO couldn’t be better, I love him so so much, we had our 3 year anniversary yesterday and went to try on engagement rings, I know we will be getting engaged soon and I am over the moon about spending the rest of my life with this great, fantastic man. So it just feels strange that on the flip side of all this I can’t seem to focus on ANYTHING and spend entire days sat on the sofa either on weddingbee or facebook. I don’t know what’s wrong with me!
I am in my final year of uni so I do have a lot of work to do which can be quite stressful but up until now I felt ready for the challenge. I am usually a hard worker but I just keep hating myself for not working which makes me feel even more guilty and then that makes me not want to work. I feel terrible that I am able to come on here and write a really long post but at the same time I’m not writing anything for my dissertation that is due in tomorrow. I feel that as soon as the dark arrives then I “can’t work anymore” (even though I’ve spent the whole day making excuses for not working already).
I have spoken to my SO about this and he is really supportive and surprised me today with some lovely french macarrons (my favourite) to cheer me up but I guess I’m not sad… I’m just un-motivated. About everything. I ate those macarrons and then just sat there feeling fat.
I don’t think I am depressed, so many things are great at the moment, but why am I being like this and what can I do? Can anyone relate?
Post # 3
@MrsT2b: Don’t feel silly. This is TOTALLY common – especially in cold dark climates (like for me in Canada). A lot of people suffer from SAD and don’t even know it. It doesn’t mean you’re crazy, it means you like some sunshine and heat. Lol.
I myself suffer from it and can totally relate. It’s a tough grind but getting in a consistant routine will really help you out. Three major things I notice that have helped are:
1) I get up and go for my run in the morning (walk if you prefer, or whatever), it’s nice and bright first thing in the morning and it gives you a good opportunity to release some endorphins and work up a sweat during those precious daylight hours.
2) Supplement with Vitamin D. You’re not getting it from the sun and sometimes if you’re busy your diet isn’t getting it in there either. I take anywhere from 1000-2000 UIs per day and know that it helps.
3) Get a Day-Light! Love the Day-Light, hug the Day-Light. These things emulate sunlight and are seriously amazing. I have my morning coffee beside it and if I’m surfing the internet in the evening I turn it on too. Just an hour a day can seriously help. There are several different brands but here is the one that I have: http://www.day-lights.com/.
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
this is very common. talk to a therapist, who will be able to help you try different things to combat SAD.
there are a lot of special lamps you can get that mimic sunlight to help. exercise. eat healthy foods. don’t sleep all the time. if nothing else works, you can try meds.
Post # 5
I totally know how you feel. I suffer from this as well, which is why I just dread the winter months. Luckily I just moved somewhere a bit warmer, but it still gets dark and I miss the daylight. I also work in an office with no windows. I basically don’t get to see any daylight now with the time change. Really depressing. But I definitely use exercise as a way to stay active and try not to let myself get super lethargic because that happens to me very easily. It’s like a trap! lol. Also, occassionally throughout the day I will go on a quick walk outside around my office building to get in some sunlight. Taking vitamins and eating well also helps keep your body and mind balanced. Good luck to you!
Post # 6
Hey dont feel silly, it is totally normal. I actually dread the winter because of SAD. However I look forward to Dec. 21st, because thats when the days start getting incrementally longer.
Supplementing vitamin D and having getting a light like the one Dollygold linked really helps me — but what helps the most is actually getting some sunshine (when it is out!), like taking a brisk walk mid-day if possible (if morning walksruns arent doable for you).
Post # 7
Thank you guys! 🙂 I think I’m going to get up early tomorrow and go for a quick run.. It’s true that I haven’t been doing any excercise lately and I’m sure that doesn’t help. I’ve heard of those lights before but never looked into buying one. I think I just need to pull myself together a bit and look after myself more.
Post # 8
@MrsT2b: Firstly, thanks for being the first Bee to respond to my first post on here 🙂
It could be a combo of the dark evenings and the amount of stuff that is going on in your life… You are a busy bee indeed and perhaps you just need a bit of time out. The fact your engagement is pending along with everything else is stressful.
I am in the same boat in some ways. I too work and take part time college which keeps me so busy. I am having minor but several health related probs now at present and am basically in stirrips at the hospital every week at this stage ha! I am also due to be engaged in the next few weeks or so (as you know, since you read my thread) and I have to say that I have days where I just am not waking up beaming. Happiness is transient, it comes and goes, waxes adn wanes etc. Just don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be ‘overjoyed’ 100 per cent of the time. Too much good stress can be detrimental to your health as bad stress so go easy on yourself, lovie.
A nice facial or massge or whatever you find relaxes you is what you need 🙂
Post # 9
I have it opposite. I am from Michigan, but live in Texas. I abhor the long summer months and long sunny days. As soon as fall hits, it’s like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I love the crisp, darker days, it totally changes my mind and my mood. I’m more apt to excersize and get out of the house… in the summer I feel like a sweaty, tired blob and I don’t even want to go outside. I feel weird saying this…but I HATE summer.
Point is: I understand and you are not alone my friend!
Post # 10
I totally know I get this, especially now I have an office with no window, eat lunch at my desk, and go to work before the sun and leave work after the sun. I HATE daylight savings time. Don’t feel weird posting this. You’re not alone.
Post # 11
I get like this sometimes in the winter. Especially since I’m living in a region that has snow and dark nights from October to May!! I’ve been told pushing yourself to exercise is a good way to kick the winter blues. I’ve also heard that some people who get Seasonal Affective Disorder find it helpful to hit the tanning beds once in a while to sort of “fool” your body into thinking of brighter days. (I know some people will advocate against tanning beds, but it’s actually been featured in some medical studies regarding successful treatment of SAD).
Post # 12
you are definitely not alone. there is nothing worse than leaving work a little after 5 and havig it already be pitch black outside. all i want to do is snuggle up under the covers and watch tv. i’m like this every year. i think november is always the worst, and you slowly adjust to it during the winter. one thing that reallllly helps me is that my dad’s entire family lives in miami, so i have a good excuse to go down there at least, if not twice during the winter and warm my bones a bit. is there any chance you can plan a vacation to someplace warm this winter? also, exercise can really help. i hate the gym but last winter i felt so down all the time, and i had jst started working from home full time so i wasn’t even getting dressed most days. my Fiance urged me to join a gym and it was great. it was hard getting motivated to go, but once i was there i felt so much better. it’s true what they say, exercise gives you endorphins, and endorphins make you happy.
bonus points to whoever caught my lame movie quote.
Post # 13
@peepstobee: Thanks, you are so right that we put too much pressure on ourselves to be happy 100% of the time… I guess life is life! I’m saving up at the moment so I might have to persuade soon to be Fiance to give me a free massage instead but that sounds like a great sugestion!
@Crystalrodz: Aaaaaah… you have no idea how lovely that sun sounds!! Wanna swap? No but seriously, I can imagine how stiffling the heat must get and that does not sound like so much fun. I just wish autumns here were less rainy and dark!
@TheFutureMcBride: Thanks for the support, it’s crazy how much it affects people I never realised!
@mrs.peters.to.be: I did go for a run in the end yesterday and was AMAZED by how much better I felt! Although I am now sitting on the sofa in agony because I didn’t stretch… lesson learnt! I really hope I keep it up -I find it so hard to motivate myself to excercise but seeing the benefits yesterday has really made me want to try and fit it into my routine more. I’ve heard of the tanning bed thing too… well I’ve never been on one but I am interested in trying one out one day (note to bees: I will wear sunscreen) but maybe I’ll save that for an emergency pick up haha. Have you ever tried it yourself?
@ pb and j: umm… legally blonde?! Haha! Thanks that cheered me up! I wish I could go on holiday somewhere warm this winter but unfortunately I’m in my last year of uni so I will be busy writing my dissertation. Miami sounds perfect though! Hope you have a great time!
Post # 14
@MrsT2b: Great! Exercise is seriously one of the very best things you can do. I have gone in the tanning beds, but I’m pretty fair so I wear sunscreen most of the time and try to limit myself to once a month (unless I’m cheating with a base tan before a vacation). I definitley cover moles or freckles. I think it actually does help. I was freezing cold one day when it was about -40 celsius (the same in Fahrenheit I think?) and I just couldn’t bare it anymore. I was in a really terrible mood too. I went to the tanning bed for like 10 minutes and I felt warmed up to the bone and it felt great. Boosted my mood for sure 🙂
Post # 15
I’ve noticed these things about myself as well. It’s totally normal.
Post # 16
That’s totally me in the winter months. This year I am doing something different. I am working out with a personal trainer 3 times a week and I must say it has really been helping with my energy level and overall mood. My Dr has been pushing me to get a sun lamp and if this year was anything like last year…I will probably get one. My Fiance has noticed the difference and is very, very pleased. He loves the winter months and I usually have no energy to enjoy it with him.