(Closed) Seating arrangement with no head table?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

If you don’t do a sweetheart table or a king’s table (head table that include’s the bridal party’s dates) you basically do have to pick favorites. 

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Rafissch:  If you don’t want a head table, you could do a sweetheart table for just the two of you. I have been to a wedding where the bride and groom had two empty chairs set across the table from them at the sweetheart table, so couples could come up and sit for a bit.

Do you have immediate family attending? You could also sit at that table with your parents and/or grandparents.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Sort of similar we did a King James head table of 22 to accomodate all the BM/ Groomsmen and their respective spouses and a few other VIP’s.  We just mixed and matched everyone (a few Bridesmaid or Best Man and then a Groomsmen and then a VIP) so it was like a big dinner party – I think it gave a nice feel to have a mix of people they sort of knew but got to hang out with and get to know better.  I would vote for mixing up the BM/ Groomsmen and their spouses at the two tables.  Might allow you more flexibility as well. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn

We sat with our immediate families (we had 11 including me and DH). Then we sat BM’s and GM’s with friends. So if a Bridesmaid or Best Man was a friend from college, they sat with other friends from college; if they were a friend from high school they sat with other friends from high school. Same for GM’s. We didn’t make all the GM’s sit together and we didn’t make all the BM’s sit together. (Most of our BM’s and GM’s had significant others). 

We used the rehearsal dinner night as time to catch up with our BM’s and GM’s… like you, they’re not people we see all the time, so it was nice to have that night before to catch up (although my BM’s got me a little too drunk and the same thing happened to DH with the GM’s!). Nothing quite like getting ready for the wedding with a hangover 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We hated the idea of a head table so we picked favorites. It was easier for us though, because all the BMs were our sisters. So we sat with them, instead of the Groomsmen. The Groomsmen table was next to us.

Another thing you could do is sit with your parents. Not as fun, but it’s an easy way to be fair if fairness is more important to you than fun.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am doing a head table with us and our parents and then my party and his party and two different tables with their SO’s.  Not sure on the numbers yet but if its not even I am okay with that!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We are doing a sweetheart table and then seating everyone else where we normally would have put them if they werent in the bridal party. My sister is with her huband at my family table, his cousins are with his family at that table, my friends are with other friends they know, ect. Depending on how the remaining RSVP’s come in, the bridal party will be at 3 or 4 different tables, not including the sweetheart table. Hope this helps!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

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julies1949:  This is pretty much what we’re doing! Fiance & I will sit at a sweetheart table, just us, and we have the GMs and BMs sitting with their families – I’ve squeezed my BMs into 2 tables and Fiance has spread them out among 3 tables. The bridal party tables and the immediate family tables (2 for me and 2 for FI) will be sitting closest to us. Before we had decided on doing the sweetheart table, I was thinking of having my Maid/Matron of Honor (+ her family) and FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man (+ his wife) sitting with us. I haven’t seen my Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 of my BMs in a long time, but I think we’ll have plenty of time to catch up in the days before the wedding and when we’re not sitting down eating at the reception Personally, I just think I’ll want to spend as much time with Fiance at our reception as possible, so the sweetheart table is just perfect for us – I bet most of the time, when we’re not eating, we’ll be walking around to the other tables saying our ‘thank you for coming’s. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I totally despise head tables.  We did a sweetheart table and it was perfect.  I think if we werent going to do a sweetheard table we would have sat with our families… perhaps do a table for us and both sets of parents.

 

Our bridal party sat with the people that were important to them… I have bee in weddings where I was forced to sit with some guy I didnt know… it sucks.

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Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn

I have to say the nice thing about sitting with our families was that they could deflect people and run “interference” for us so that we could eat! Other than eating, we didn’t spend that much time sitting at our own table. 

EVERYONE wants to say hello to you and congratulate you and take a photo with you. If we didn’t have our families looking out for us, I’m not sure we would have gotten to eat more than a couple of bites. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We had three long family style tables and my husband and I sat at the head of the middle one, which had our bridal party and their dates. Our families were on either side of us. It worked out really well! We only had 50 guests though.

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Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This seating was so fun to plan!

We did all circular tables so there was no “head” table really but we seated our parents at our table. Like someone else said, you don’t spend much time at your table anyway. 🙂 We scattered the bridal party throughout other tables (basically with their friends or people they would get along with).

My dream though was to do long tables like the poster above and sit in the middle. My in-laws did that for the rehearsal dinner and it was fun!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We wanted long tables as well – impossible though. 

I hate the idea of head tables – I’ve been a bridal party partner and not able to sit with him and while it doesn’t spoil the night, it does make it a little harder. Most the bridal party have partners so they’re just sitting with them on the night and we are doing a sweetheart table. I’m so excited to be able to spend a few minutes just eating quietly with my new husband next to me. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

we aren’t doing a ‘head table’ just a table that happened to have us on! they were circular tables of 8 though luckily we could fit our bridal party (two BMs, two best men, two SOs of bridal party, us) on. 

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