(Closed) seating assigned or not?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: If you were attending what seating arrangement would you prefer?
    Assigned seats : (7 votes)
    15 %
    Assigned tables : (33 votes)
    69 %
    Free for all (except Table 1) : (8 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    my brother’s bar mitzvah was a free for all seating arrangement and it ended up quite disastrously…fine for the one table that had assigned seating, but everyone else had to run to the tables to reserve them before others…it looked a little ridiculous, and even then, groups got split up

    Post # 4
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Im doing assigned tables and then they can sit wherever they want. I thnk having it open will beceoma a mad rush with people being left out 🙁

    Post # 5
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    It is soooo hard for people to coordinate seating on their own – families and groups of friends end up split up as there is no room left at any table big enough for all of them.  As things really fill, couples may have to split as there are only single seats left everywhere.

    Think how annoying / much of a pain figuring out seating arrangements is for you – it’s 5 times worse for the guests if its a free for all.

    I don’t see a need for assigned seats though, only assigned tables.  I think people are smart enough to arrange themselves at their assigned table together.

    Post # 6
    990 posts
    Busy bee

    I think assigned tables is a good idea. People sitting wherever they want to is a good option so that way they dont have to decide and leaves less stress for you. Leaving open seating, you run the risk of too many people trying to to sit at one table to be social. I am going to do assigned tables because that would be the issue I would run into, FI’s family is crazy enough to try and sit all together…which would mean the whole night, people would be divided.

    Post # 7
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Assigned tables is nice because you know where to be as a guest. I went to a wedding that didn’t have assigned tables and it was crazy. Some tables ended up pullng up more chairs while other tables people were sitting alone.

    Post # 8
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ll have assigned seats, because I think it’s more personal: the guests know you thought about them – you wrote down their names! There is not anybody sitting on that seat – that person has a name 🙂

    Post # 9
    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    You have a fairly small group, so I think it’s very reasonable to include the free-for-all  option. 

    A lot of people will tell you its chaotic to have free for all seating, but I think it depends on how many additional seats you have ready for guests. If you know there will be plenty of empty seats, then the free for all works fine because there are no issues with letting groups sit together or separating people from the group they want to sit with. 

    If you will only have seating for the number of people RSVPing, then I would at least assign tables. When there are no extra seats, then you are basically asking your guests to play 1 round of musical chairs – where there will probably be a few people left standing, trying to figure out where they will have to fill in. 

    Another thing to consider is your table layout – Round tables are very separate from one another, so if you’re doing tables of 8 and have 12 friends who want to sit together, it’s nearly impossible to make 2 tables feel very connected. If you’re going with rectangular tables that can touch end to end (at least some of them, just make sure theres reasonable aisles), then its easier for groups to find their own seats and still all be sitting together (without awkwardly trying to pull more chairs to one round table.)

    Other than that, you might consider what is the norm for your family and friends for a gathering of a similar size. If you have a large family and they are used to having large family functions with no seating assignments, then they will be fine if you let them choose their seats. If it’s expected to have assigned seating or if your guests don’t often get together in large groups, then assigned tables might be helpful.

    All of your options can be done successfully, it’s up to you how important seating assignments are to you vs. how much time and stress you are willing to devote to seating assignments. 

    Post # 10
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    When I’m a guest, I like to have assigned seats. The only time when I dislike assigned seats, is when the hosts just throw people together and you are seated next to people with clashing personalities (which can be a problem with table assignments too).

    Post # 11
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I jumped the gun in voting. With 27-30 people I would elimate the stress and not do a seating chart. Since it is a small group they should be able to figure it out without a problem.

    Post # 12
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We had about 30 people and open seating worked fine for us.  Our parents and my husband and I were at one table and everyone else choose their own seats.  Plus this allowed us to move around to other tables throughout the night.

    Post # 14
    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    for a group that small and mostly family, I would say skip the assignments.  I’m having almost 50 ppl and really wanted to do assigned tables, but Fiance and my mother both pushed me to not do it….I hope it works out, for both of us!

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