Post # 1
As a young adult, if you were invited to a wedding where you didn’t really know anybody else in attendance besides the bride/groom and your parents (for example, you are a distant cousin, or a childhood friend who didn’t end up attending high school or college with the bride/groom and thus you don’t have any mutual friends)…would you rather be seated at a table with other young adults that you don’t know, or at a table with your parents and other older folks?
If you couldn’t tell, I’m working on my seating chart, and have a handful of great people who I know would probably get along with each other, but I just don’t know if they’d prefer being with their parents or with other people their age that they could get to know over the course of dinner. Which would you prefer as a guest?
Post # 3
I’m not sure how young you are talking about here, but if I was bringing a date with me, I would be okay with sitting with other young adults I don’t know. If I didn’t have a date, I’d prefer to be seated with my parents.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
with my parents. i’m usually shy around people my own age, but not with an older crowd.
Post # 5
To clarify…the people I’m referring to are 20 somethings (in fact, I believe it literally ranges from 21 – 29.) Most of them do not have dates, and the ones that do, I’m a lot less concerned about.
Post # 6
I would say with others my age because otherwise I would feel like a tag-along to my parents or be bored.
Post # 7
I went to several weddings in that category when I was that age, and absolutely preferred the ones where I was sitting with others my own age. Not that I don’t love my parents, but (at the time, at least!) I saw them all the time, and at family weddings in particular, they were much more interested in catching up with other family/family friends of their generation that they rarely saw. Some of the most interesting people I’ve met at weddings have been in situations like that, too. It’s fun to find out how each person is connected to the couple.
It’s also worth bearing in mind that if you seat family 20-somethings with their parents, you may not have a critical mass of childhood friends and others without parents at the wedding to make a full table—it’s fun when it’s a whole table of randoms and no one knows one another so you have to jump in headfirst, but not so much when it’s a table of college friends and one or two extras.
“Young adults” meaning 13-19 would be another story—at that age, I’d have preferred sitting with my parents.
Post # 8
I would pick sitting with a group my own age.
Post # 9
I see my parents all the time and I’m not particularly shy, so I think I’d probably have a better night seated with other adults my age (as long as they didn’t all know each other and weren’t all cliquey and ignored me all night or anything.) It probably depends on all the individuals involved! Just don’t put them at the kids table 🙂
Post # 10
I think it depends on the person. If you are talking about anyone under 18, then they should be seated with their parents. Anyone older, it depends. Some are more comfortable sitting with their parents or grandparents and others would prefer to sit with someone else their age. There is no one-size-fits-all answer for this because it depends on your guests.
That said, as an adult of any age, you should be able to socialize with strangers and enjoy yourself even if you don’t know anyone else, and that applies to anything, not just weddings. Most adults are able to do that with no problem, even if it is outside of their comfort bubble.
Post # 11
Wow, its literally tied up 20-20! Bumping this to get some more input =)
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I originally voted with others my age, but that was before I saw that most of them won’t have dates – if I didn’t have a date, I think I’d be more comfortable seated with my parents.
Post # 13
I think you have to think about the personalities of these individuals (so were you place them may differ for different people).
If they are really outgoing and can typically talk to / make friends with anyone, then put them at a table with other young adults. But if they are normally shy or more reserved until they really know someone well, they’re probably going to be more comfortable sitting with their parents. Those with dates should be fine at a table with other young adults either way, but you can also use these couples to make numbers work between young adult tables and parent tables.
Post # 14
I agree with FKMM – think of their personalities – I am outgoing and love meeting new people and so I chose sit with people my age because I would want to meet some friends I could dance all night with 😉 I doubt my parents would be doing that!
But I could see how people with more introverted personalities would want to sit with the people they know even if they are older.
Post # 15
I’ve been seated at the “young adult” tables before instead of with my parents, and it was always really awkward because it seemed the other “young adults” all knew each other–went to college together, etc.
I’d much rather be with my family. I’m not too cool to be seen hanging with my parents, hehe. 😉
Post # 16
i think it also depends on whether they are out of towners or live somewhere different from their parents. fi and i went to a wedding a couple years ago that my whole family went to, and they sat me and my fi, my bro and sil, and parents all at different tables. and it sucked, bc we all lived in different parts of the country and just wanted to sit together. they were trying to be clever and seat us with people they thought we’d like, but really i just wanted to talk to my family…but then again, i’m kinda a mommy-and-daddy’s girl, so i like being with my fam 😉