(Closed) Seating at the Table

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Maybe suggest to your mom that its really a big table circle, so the table right next to you actually IS the furthest away??

What is this about the hotel room?  Good grief.  What part of the wedding night thing do they not get?  Although I have had to spell out to my mom, who lives a block away, that if Fiance and I are at my house "for lunch" there is probably a reason that has nothing to do with lunch, otherwise we would go to his house and eat lunch with his kids!!  (In order to stop her just letting herself in if we don’t answer the doorbell.)

I think that your friends should not have to trek clear across the room to hang with you.  I think that if you put them clear across the room, they will probably steal other people’s seats, or rearrange chairs, so that they can hang with you. (I would!  Bad guest, no cake.)  And if your sister is at that table, how much closer does it get than that?

Hang tough bluebear.  Maybe you can get your sister to stick up for your seating arrangement – harder for your mom to fight you both!

Post # 4
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438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

seriously, i don’t understand why seating is such a big deal!  we went to a wedding, there were a total of 8 of us from the groom’s side, and my family complained the entire time that they weren’t sitting right up front…..I mean, we were right in the middle of the room!  for our wedding, we thankfully have more of a circle, and everyone will be spread out more by age group than anything.  my friends will be closer to the bar/dj/dance floor than others….anyway, tell them thats the way you want it!  and no way on the hotel room…..it is beyond rude that they would even think that was okay!!!  is this person an adult?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Well if you are paying I guess you have the ultimate right to decide.  However, in all of the weddings I’ve been to  friends have been near the back and family in the front and it was fine because friends will always make their way over to see you, meet you on the dance floor etc.

Also, family is a lot more senstive about where they sit and friends aren’t so I would go with the least offending placement of tables. Also, these kinds of things cause unnecessary tension with parents so think to yourself- do you really care that much? If you do, fight for it, if not, let it go.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I say seat them next to you especially since it includes the Maid/Matron of Honor.  Just let your parents know that it is disrespectful to have your Maid/Matron of Honor who is doing so much for you and expending so much $ so far away and you want her with friends so that she can enjoy the day to its utmost.  If that doesn’t work just seat them they way you want and don’t tell your parents until they see the seating chart.  Do you think they would really make a big scene on the day fo the wedding in front of all of those people.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i totally understand what you’re saying about where to put family vs. friends at a chinese banquet.  i think this is one area, i wouldn’t fight about. i wouldn’t want relatives or my parents’ friends thinking they weren’t important since they’re the ones who understand that tradition.  also i’ve been to enough chinese wedding to know that you probably won’t be spending too much time at the table anyway if you’re doing all the traditiona stuff – tea ceremony, table to table toasts with parents, changing dresses, etc. don’t worry, you’ll see them. my fi and i are also paying for the whole thing. my parents actually have 10 tables. we have 30 tables in total. 

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