(Closed) Seating cards for unmarried couples & guests..?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Etiquette for seating cards?
    Put umarried couples as well as friends + guests on one card : (8 votes)
    62 %
    All of those mentioned stay seperate : (4 votes)
    31 %
    Do unmarried couples seperately but still Friend + Guest on one card : (1 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Are you just assigning tables and not seats?

    If you are assigning tables and not seats, then “Mr. Name here and Guest” will be fine. If you are assigning seats, you really need to have one card per person. The guest, if you don’t know their name would be “Mr. Name here’s guest”. I really do think that if you are assigning seats, you should try to get the guest’s names though, so you can put that name on the card instead. They will really appreciate that you took the effort and time to do that.

    Post # 4
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I think it’s fine to put unmarried couples on one card. I know when I was single I still enjoyed being a part of a couple and sharing an escort card.

    Post # 5
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    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Everyone should have their own card, regardless of marital status.  Yes, I had to chase down a few people to get their guests’ names.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I did escort cards (so I assigned tables but not seats).  Mine are a little more casual than most, but I did these:

    • Jane & Joe Smith
    • Jane Smith & John Jones
    • Jane & Joe Smith and family
    • Jane Smith & John Jones and family
    • Jane Smith

    The way mine are spaced and set up the last name is in a much larger font and on it’s own line.  Those with ‘and family’ on them have that in a smaller font under the last name.  Single guests are all on one line, but the last name is still larger.  Two different names – one is on each line and if there’s an ‘and family’ it goes underneath.

     

    Post # 8
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @chickeybarr: Even though we only had 24 guests at our wedding, I still assigned tables and seats. That way their weren’t any gaps and everyone knew where to sit, so there wasn’t any confusion. I have been to a couple of wedding where guests have had to move places at the tables because they had to make room for a couple or a couple and kid(s). I think it is just easier if there are assigned seats at the tables. You are assigning tables anyway. It really wouldn’t be that difficult to put them at a specific seat.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @chickeybarr: I had the cards at the tables, before the guests got there. The placecards that I made for our wedding were also favors, and there were only two tables, so it was easy for them to find their places. If I would have had more guests/tables, I would have made an alphabetized seating chart and displayed that at the door or on a table to/in the reception area, so the guests would know which table they needed to be seated at.

    EDIT: Even though our wedding was more formal than casual, I did not put the Mr. or Mrs. or Ms. on the cards. I did put things like Auntie, Uncle, Dad/His name, etc. We wanted formal, but not stuffy, and for us, it worked really well.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I plan to put couples on the same escort card. I think its cute that way

    Post # 14
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I put everyone together, except I did give the children their own cards. They loved them.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The only ‘kids’ I made a separate card for is FIs half brother.  He’s 17… but I mainly did it because I thought at the time I may seat him at a different table than his mom. 

    Everyone else is covered in the ‘and family’.  I didn’t want the expense of doing more or want the extra space devoted to displaying them.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I hear its polite to not sit married couples together to get the conversation going. But singles together is always good.

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