Post # 1
My wedding is two weeks from Saturday (yikes and yay!). I made a seating plan last night and I think it worked out beautifully. My mom mentioned a few months ago that it’s etiquette/tradition for the Mother of The Bride to have a say in the seating chart. I googled this and could find nothing. She and my dad are divorced but I’ve already worked his and her seating out w/both of them. I really don’t want to show her the seating chart b/c she tends to nitpick and create unnecessary drama (though she’s also lovely and of course, I love her very much!). Anyone heard of this before??
Post # 3
Never heard of that, but who’s paying you or her? If it’s her then she’s hosting and should have some say. If it’s you and your FH, then ask her to name one or two people she’d like to be seated with.
Post # 4
@Esquia82: I have never heard of such a tradition. I think I would tell her that you already have the seating chart worked out. No reason for more drama so close to your wedding 🙂
Post # 5
If you already have it worked out then dodge the subject.
Here is how we do it when one of our girls is getting married:
MOB hosts her own table
FOB hosts his own table
Groom’s parents host their own table.
Then, I go through and seat our family members on the chart, I ask the kids to figure out how they want their friends seated, and I ask MOG (if groom doesn’t want to do it, and so far he hasn’t) how she would like their side of the family seated. It has saved me immense headaches doing it that way. Our 4th Dirty Delete gets married next year!
Post # 6
I would let her know the tables she and her family/freinds are sitting at. She may know that cousin A doesnt speak to cousin B and may prefer a friend of two of hers to sit at her table, even if it means the family sits elsewhere. I see no need to share table arrangments of others with her. I would make certain her table was as nice as your dad’s.