Post # 1
Why are they so hard?!! Also, my title is misleading. It should be called Seating Chart Rage.
I can’t figure out who we should sit with, I can’t figure out where my sister and her fiancé I’ve never met should sit, I can’t figure out where my in-laws’ in-laws should sit. I had two glasses of wine and yelled “They can all sit wherever they want!”
Just a vent, I’ll be trying again tomorrow. 18 days!
Post # 2
This is exactly why I’m so glad casual receptions with buffets and open seating are the norm in my area 😉 Good luck OP!
Post # 3
Ugh this will be my final wedding challenge I know it. A thoughtful seating chart is vital… good luck! Ask your mom! lol
Post # 4
Yup, I feel you. It was the hardest part of wedding planning. Like a puzzle with no right “fit.” It took me forever, and then Future Mother-In-Law and my mom wanted to change a million things. I told them explicitly – you can swap 2 people for 2 people, but there’s no moving 3 people for 4 people or anything like that. You can do it! I’m 5 days away and it’s all a distant memory at this point.
Post # 5
I have nothing constructive to say other than that in 10 short days, I took will be suffering in seating chart solidarity.
Post # 6
I plan to have the mothers take care of all that. Their guests, their problem!
Post # 7
You can do it!!
First things first, decide who YOU want to sit with. Who are you closest to, who do you want to spend dinner talking to.
Then look at the tables next cloest to you, you should have your cloest family members and friends on those table, then spread out to more distant friends and family members.
Get a few pieces of A3 paper and draw up a plan of your venue and the tables, and get some little sticky notes that you can write each persons name on so it’s easy to move them around.
Post # 8
Fiance and I found the seatinch chart quite easy ^___^ I was actually eager to finish this project as I thought it would take us a long time and some battles (both wanting to offer our family the “best seats”) instead, we were able to finish it in under two hours (most of the time spent on me drawing charts on a white board).
I think the key for arrangins sits is to keep in mind the following:
1) Assigned seats are most important when it is time for dinner. The rest of the time people will probably be standing up, dancing, walking around, seating with people the know/just met, etc.
2) As long as you don’t sit together people who hate each other they will be allright. If alcohol is included, then changes of everybody having a great time even when sitting with strangers are bigger!
3) Try to sit the people you appreciatte the most near you. Those are the people you might want to spend most of your wedding with: chatting, joking, dancing, etc.
Post # 9
I can feel your pain! I just finalised the seating chart a few days ago. It was agonising, even with just 32 guests.
I finally realised that there was no socially acceptable way to seat people with the same number at every table, so we have two tables of 7 and two tables of 9. Hope it doesn’t look too weird.
I also know FI’s parents are not going to be happy with certain family members at their table, but it wasn’t avoidable. At least they aren’t next to each other!
Post # 10
Thanks for all of the commiseration and advice everyone! I knew I’d be feeling better today and I am! But today we are choosing processional music so I get a break 🙂