Post # 1
I had wanted to have a seating chart (we have 185 guests). I had started to put it together and my mother told me today that she has had several people mention to her that they will sit with who they want rather than pay attention to the seating chart.
1. I find this very rude–its one single day have some respect.
2. My fear is if I spend all this effort on one and people dont adhere to it it is a waste of time.
3. My worry is if I dont do one families will get split up and not be able to sit together because of how people are sitting at the tables.
4. I could solve this problem altogether by calculating number of tables I need based on 6 sitting at a table versus 8 so this should leave me with extra tables and less worry on people not having room
Post # 3
do the seating chart. it’s really best for all.
Post # 4
@abales45: I’ve never heard of someone not following a seating chart!! Is this common where you are? I think people are understanding of the fact that a seating chart is necessary, and if you are seated away from someone you want to spend time with, you do so during the dancing after dinner is served.
I definitely think you should make a seating chart!! Hopefully everyone will abide by it. I agree with you, that would be so rude if people just decided to sit wherever they want!
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of people not following a seating chart and I think it’s one of the rudest things I’ve ever heard!! So someone will go to sit at their table and there will be no seats left?! Ridiculous. Make your seating chart and hopefully anyone who doesn’t follow it will look/feel like an idiot.
Post # 6
Make the chart. If people sit wherever they want that’s the height of rudeness and i would publicly shame them hahaha. No, i’m just in one of those moods today, but i would definitely make it, unless people are going to move around the place cards which would make a very big confusing mess. hopefully they dont do that!
Post # 7
Make the seating chart. If they don’t follow it, they don’t get their meals. The people who do follow it will have the others move. Make sure your venue or DOC or whatnot has a list of the seating arrangement, so if there’s any questions, they can take care of this for you.
I worked a wedding as an assistant DOC, and the couple had a slightly confusing seating plan (no table numbers) and that list was a Godsend!
EDIT: When I say they don’t get their meals, I mean they won’t get what they asked for, not that they won’t eat.
Post # 8
Thank you all! Now that I have finally taken a breather I am back at creating my seating plan (super glad i didnt get moody and delete what I had already done). Its my (our) day and if people cant adhere to a seating plan they are just being childish…they are more than welcome to mingle after the fact. I have made sure that some tables have extra seats in case someone brings a plus one they didnt original state or people want to shift a bit. I simply have them at a specific table how they sit at that table is really up to them. I just want to make sure families dont have to split up and for example one of our guests in a wheel chair doesnt have to go all the way to the back to find a seat with his wife.