(Closed) Seating chart drama with the MOG- HELP

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hi Date Twin!

Here’s what I’ve discovered in these last few weeks–I am so tired, and so overwhelmed that when something like this comes up, I sit on it for a few minutes at first, and try to decide how much it matters to me.  And if it matters at all, why.

I’m facing the same thing with my tables.  If 10 is legitimately too crowded for you, I personally wouldn’t want my guests to feel squished.  However, if 9 is feasible, and the only thing stopping you is a distate for odd numbers (which I totally share!) in my case, I let it go.  People won’t even think about it, and I doubt I will even notice (or care) on that day.

There are absolutely issues worth going to the mat for, I just don’t think this is one of them.  And you already said it nicely yourself you can “try to accomodate”, but you make no guarantees.  It works out how it works out.

Post # 5
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I understand the need to only have 8 people (we’re facing the same problem, but it’s Fiance that wants 10), but I think you need to take into consideration where people might want to sit, especially if you don’t know the people. You never know what ‘secrets’ might be hidden as to why they don’t want to sit with Great Uncle Jim.

Post # 6
2148 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@blingqueen: I think that what you told her was fine…to e-mail you the requests and that you will take them into consideration when YOU do the seating chart. I also dislike odd numbers so I wouldn’t budge on having 8 guests per table if it were me =) I wouldn’t even explain it to her…just give it to her as a cold, hard fact. Weddings are stressful but one of the things I have learned through planning both my younger siblings’ weddings is that people will only stress you out as much as you let them. State your intentions, be firm, and refuse to address the issue anymore. You will be surprised at how well it works.

Post # 8
5165 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011


It is good to stand your ground and do it the way you want it. Personally I’m not crazy about arranged seating though, I wanna have fun and sit with whom I please rather than being told where to sit, but thats just me

Post # 9
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I just got done with our seating chart. Basically, i put together my tables (friends, etc), my mother did hers, and Future Mother-In-Law did hers. Future Mother-In-Law requested that I let her arrange her tables which I was fine with – I don’t know her friends that well and didn’t know who they would want sitting with who. Same with my mother – she knew who she wanted everyone to sit with and preferred to do it herself.

Most of the round tables have 8 but we have several with 9. I don’t think having uneven tables is a big deal. I have several single friends coming w/o dates so it just happened to work out that way!

Good luck 🙂

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