Post # 1
Hi bees – I’m in need of your expertise for my seating chart!! Our venue said that it is usually 8 per table, but they can do 10 (although it will be more crowded). I have started my seating chart based on who we are inviting, knowing that some people will need to be shuffled around once the rsvp’s start coming in.
However, my first thought for the seating chart was to mix it up, but stay within age ranges (it mix up his & my aunts/uncles and mix our cousins). Part of me thinks it would be great for our families to get to know one another better. However, I’m not sure how people might feel about this.. they may just want to sit with their family for the night. Also, would you rather be sititng at a table of 10 and a bit squished, or sitting more comfortably at a more “random” table – if that makes sense.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 2
I would definatly do 8 to a table if you can. Much more comfortable for everyone.
We we tried to mix it up but also make sure everyone had someone they knew at the table (other than their spouse/date). So we’d sit 2 couples from DH’s work with 2 couples from my work. That way, they could mingle, but also had people they knew to talk to.
Post # 3
10 is pretty squishy. Go with 8 per table.
You could sit them with at least one person they know and a few new faces? That might make people more comfortable while encouraging mingling.
Post # 4
Engaged1026: definitely 8 and try to stick to having at least one other person or couple at the table that someone knows. that way they can mingle but have a “fail proof” person to socialize with if needed
Post # 5
We did half with 8 and half with 9, at a 5 foot table. For a shower, when we had chiavari chairs, we did all 9s.
Post # 6
Engaged1026: I say it’s definitely preferable to put people with other people they know, where possible. Especially with families, because a wedding is a bit of a family event, and family members like to catch up with each other.
Where you can’t put everyone in one group at the same table (e.g. 12 family members, so they need one and a half tables), I agree that similar age is the next best thing.
But I’d rather be at a table of 8 with half of them strangers, than squished onto a 10 person table of family members.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
Engaged1026: I found it easier to group people in tables with 8 people. 10 is okay too but I think that it can be a little far from other peple if it is a bigger table.
I agree that mixing family together is good – I always found it weird when the two families are completely apart. We are doing one table that has FI’s mom, my parents, the Priest and some older relatives together. Another table will have my siblings and FI’s siblings together. It’s just nice to mix it up if you are able to.
Post # 8
I kept families together except for my oldest niece and her boyfriend, who I put at a table with other couples and a couple of single guests. She’s 19 and I felt like defining her relationship more instead of making her feel like they were with the kids pretty much.