(Closed) Seating Chart issues….already HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you asked your Mom how she feels about this?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

How many people are you putting at each table? Who do you want to put in those seats closer rather than them? How does your mom feel about it?

That last question would have a big impact on my decision. I think putting them with your mom’s sister (assuming their daughter) would be okay if your mom is okay with it.

But if your mom would be crushed by them not being invited, she might take the seating issue as a slight. And maybe she’d like to spend the evening with them. I think this is not a hill to die on if she has strong feelings on it. You won’t be at the table, so I’d do what makes your mom happy assuming you don’t have to slight someone else (kick out other family from the table that you really care about) to do so.

I have several tables that are pretty close to the head table. Is that an option?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I totally understand how you feel about this. My grandparents have gotten progressively harder to deal with as they’ve aged and have yet to acknowledge my engagment either, and I’m still stuck inviting them. I, too, have roughed out my seating chart, and they’ll be seated with my parents– but only because I don’t want to inflict them on anyone else. My mom actually said, “Gee, thanks for sticking us with G&G.” :p  If I were you, I’d ask my mom where she would prefer they be seated and just go with it, since it sounds like they’re only being invited to appease mom anyway.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This might be a dumb question, seeing as I’m not quite there yet, but how do you make a seating chart when you don’t know yet who will be able to come? 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You really don’t need to worry about this now.  A whole lot can change between now and when you NEED to do your seating chart (a few weeks before your wedding).  I know its tempting to start thinking about who will sit with whom, but nothing needs to be finalized for a good long time.  I suggest taking a few deep breaths and finding another, less stressful project to work on.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m having multiple tables with family because my parents are separated and all of my grandparents are divorced and remarried (except for 1). One of my grandfathers has a teenaged daughter (from 2nd marraige) who won’t know anyone else at the wedding. I can’t image a table with my mom, my dad, my mom’s dad and his wife, my mom’s mom, my dad’s dad and his wife and daughter, and my dad’s mom and her husband. Even if I split it into two tables (my dad with his parents, step-parents and half sister, my mom with her parents and step-parent) I think there would still be unnecessary tension. So I’m asking my parents who they want seated with them, and I will probably have each set of grandparents at their own table with a variety of my uncles, aunts, and cousins to fill them up.

Basically, ask your mom who she wants to sit with her and leave it at that.

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